Dealing with Death – A Personal Story
11/15/24

On Thursday morning, Oct 31, when I awoke, I sat up in bed, and as I do every morning, chanted: Modah Ani L’fanecha… “I give thanks to You for returning my soul to me with mercy, how great is Your faith in me.”

Due to my mother’s unstable health, I had slept at her house that night – the house I grew up in.  I walked into her room to check on her, and found that her soul was no longer in her body.

When we go to sleep at night, most of us assume that we will wake up in the morning. Our liturgy, written 2000 years ago, when life was more precarious for ALL humans, does not take this for granted.  In our Ma’ariv prayers every evening, we say or sing the Hashkiveinu:  “Help us to lie down in peace and rise up (literally, stand up) to life, and spread over us Your shelter of peace – Sukkat Shalom.”   My mother did not stand up on Oct 31, but I do feel that there was and is a shelter of peace over her.

I feel that her soul is in a state of joy and peace.* [see image below]

If she were alive, she would be terribly worried over the state of this country heading into 2025. I believe that she is now in a place beyond fear, and this gives me some peace as well – some peace in this on-the-brink time when it’s very easy to spin out into panic about how the election results will affect all of us in the United States and throughout the world – humans, all living beings, and the earth herself.  Were she still in her body, she would not be able to offer me any comfort in the wake of this election. In the state she is in now, she is able to support and comfort me.  This is not a mental concept for me, but a lived experience – and a very surprising one.

I want to thank all of you who came to the funeral, the shiva (in person or on Zoom), to the service and lunch last Shabbat morning, and to all who sent me cards, email or texts. Jewish customs around death and mourning are SO WISE and SO COMFORTING.  I am blessed to have many close friends in the Amherst- Northampton area – some for 45-50 years, most for > 30 years. I knew there would be many friends and neighbors coming into my mother’s house during shiva.  I did not expect BAJC’ers to come all the way down to Amherst from Brattleboro. I was very touched that so many of you did.

When my father’s soul left his body nearly 3 years ago, I had only been serving as BAJC’s rabbi for 5 weeks and we were still in the midst of the pandemic. My sisters and I sat shiva together, but it was almost entirely on Zoom.

This was a very different experience in so many ways.  It was comforting to be able to bury our mother in a beautiful little cemetery 15 minutes from the home in which she lived the last 58 years of her life, surrounded by the graves of people we knew.  It was comforting to sit shiva in her beloved home where we could feel her Presence as if she were still alive. And it was comforting to share this passage with this congregation in addition to friends and neighbors.

I love that the word in Hebrew for funeral is Levayah  לוויה, which literally means “accompanying.”  Those who attend the funeral are both accompanying the body & soul of the deceased (the soul is understood to still be hovering near the body), and also accompanying the mourners.  Thank you for accompanying me.

*On Wednesday evening, a few hours before my sisters left for NY and Philly, this picture appeared in my sister’s photos on her iPhone. No one texted or emailed or airdropped it to her.  None of us had ever seen it before.We are left with the feeling — the faith — that Mom sent this to us from just beyond the veil.  She wants us to know that she is happy and well. Here she is in her garden, about 40 years ago. She LOVED gardening, but for the past 5-10 years she was unable to do any gardening due to severe physical limitations and pain.  Whenever I squatted she expressed envy, longing, because she had been unable to squat for several decades. It’s wonderful to see her squatting comfortably, radiating joy and LIFE.

Davar Acher (lit. “other word” or “other matter”, i.e. a different subject):

On Oct 23, in the Restorative Circle that Miriam Dror and John Ungerleider facilitated, they asked, both in general and vis-a-vis the horrible ongoing war in the Middle East: “What brings you peace?”  What came to me was that I feel more at peace when I consider that I could be wrong.  This does not mean we should stop working for what we believe in. It does not mean we should abdicate our responsibility to try to protect the most vulnerable groups in our society.  But perhaps we can work for what we believe in while staying open to the possibility that we may be missing some piece of the truth.  We all have our blind spots.

The election results invite us to see people “with good eyes” – as the Israeli and Palestinian Women of Vision taught us through their example when they were here in September.  Perhaps we cannot extend these good eyes to Trump himself or to his inner circle, but most of the people who voted for him are good people.  Let’s keep in mind our common humanity.  Let’s try to identify the valid underlying needs that motivate people. Let’s specifically try to locate within those with whom we disagree unmet needs that we can empathize with, even though we do not like the strategies they are using to attempt to meet those needs.

I have enormous respect and gratitude for a friend who literally made 6000 calls or door knocks for Democratic candidates all over the Midwest and New England between July and Nov 5.  He told me that he met hundreds of good people and had some really good conversations.  He did succeed in changing some people’s minds, and he also changed his own mind about several issues.  Pirkei Avot (Ethics of our Fathers) teaches: “Who is wise? One who learns from everyone.”  I am sure that Ben Zoma said those words after many disagreements and arguments, and that he continued to disagree and argue for many years after that, but that he made it a practice to learn something from everyone with whom he disagreed.  I would add that if we can learn from everyone, we will also experience more peace.

Day 360, 9/30/24

It has been nearly a year since that beyond-words horrible day, followed by nearly a year of beyond-words horrible, bloody days.

In Israel, there is great division about what to do on Oct 7. There will be an official government memorial, broadcast on TV, with no live audience. The Hostages and Missing Families Forum is boycotting the government event, organizing an alternative event in Tel Aviv, already sold out to tens of thousands. Some of the kibbutzim in the Gaza Envelope are doing their own smaller ceremonies.

What should we do here at Shir Heharim — the Brattleboro Area Jewish Community?

How do we memorialize when the trauma is ongoing?

There are still 101 Israeli hostages – we do not know how many are alive – in Gaza.

The people of Gaza are still under bombardment as the IDF continues its seemingly never-ending pursuit of every last Hamas fighter, with > 41,000 Palestinians killed (I do not know the % of Hamas fighters vs non-combatants), many more wounded, and 100s of 1000s starving and sick.

More than 700 IDF soldiers have lost their lives, with more than 2100 wounded.

The West Bank has seen unprecedented violence – both from Islamic militant groups, extreme Jewish settlers, and the IDF.

In Northern Israel, > 62,000 were forced to evacuate in April and have been unable to return to their homes.

In the past few weeks, since the pager operation, much larger sections of the North are living in bomb shelters and safe rooms.

The death toll from IDF airstrikes in Southern Lebanon is > 550.

These statistics are dizzying, numbing.

I have been contemplating what to do, thinking it unlikely that many of you would come to an additional gathering on Oct 7, when you are hopefully coming to High Holiday services, and I hope some of you will also participate in the dialogue circle planned and facilitated by John Ungerleider and Miriam Dror on Oct 5.

We will commemorate Oct 7 and its ongoing aftermath on Yom Kippur from 4:30-5:15 PM.

The Eleh Ezkerah – literally “These We Remember”, aka Martyrology is part of the Yom Kippur liturgy in which we traditionally recount the stories of 10 Rabbinic Sages killed during the Roman occupation of Israel. In our Reform Machzor, this section has been renamed: “These I Remember: Stories of Repairing the World.” It lists the 10 Sages traditionally remembered, and after some words about one of them, Rabbi Akiva, it briefly tells the stories of ten 20th century martyred Jews, among them Hannah Senesh, Etty Hillesum, and civil rights activists Andrew Goodman & Michael Schwerner, who were murdered together with their co-activist and friend, James Chaney, registering African-American voters in Mississippi in 1964.

While this is a section that I generally give a nod to with a melancholy song and 5 minutes of silent reading, this year, we will devote 45 minutes to remembering 10 individuals – 5 Israelis and 5 Palestinians – killed on or in the wake of Oct 7.

If there is a particular Israeli or Palestinian whose memory/story you would like to bring to this service for 3-4 minutes, please let me know by Monday night, Oct 7. Contact me at ravamita@bajcvermont.org.

The year 5785 in Hebrew is תשפ’ה.
It is a tradition to use the letters of the year to create blessings for the year. I found the blog of Yochai Orlan, with a whole list of short blessings he composed using the initials of this Hebrew year.
My favorite among them is: תהא שנת פיוס הדדי
May this be a year of mutual reconciliation.

May 5785 bring compassion, wisdom, an end to this madness, ceasefire.

L’Shanah Tovah, לשנה טובה
May this be a good year for us all.

Rabbi Amita

THE VALUE OF LIFE, 9/5/24

Yesterday I listened to the most recent episode of The Promised Podcast, https://tlv1.fm/promised-podcast/2024/09/05/the-hersh-ben-perel-chana-edition/, a collection of Rachel Goldberg Polin’s speeches from day 18 through her eulogy to her son. I wept through most of it. Powerful, agonizing and inspiring. I highly recommend listening. She has become one the Imahot (Mothers) and heroines of the Jewish People.

I wrote on Monday that one of the topics of my long, meandering conversation with my friend late last Saturday night was the value of human life. When we know some one personally, or know their family and their story, there is a natural tendency to value their life more than that of a faceless, nameless person. Almost every Israeli knows the names, faces and stories of all of the hostages, as well as the fallen soldiers.

I very much appreciate that HAARETZ recently published an article with the names, faces and brief descriptions of 40 of the > 40,000 Palestinians killed in Gaza since Oct 7, including a poet, a karate champion, a famed artist. I do not want to be numb. Seeing faces and reading even a little bit about these individuals awakens and tears at my heart. (If you hit a paywall when you try to open the link to the article, I hope it will motivate you to subscribe to Haaretz.com).

If you are interested in Israeli news in English, this link provides good descriptions of and links to a wide variety of news sources, left, right and center.

אלול

The month of Elul began on Monday at sundown. Rosh Hashanah 5785 is now less than 1 month away. From the 1st of Elul through Hoshanah Rabbah (the 7th day of Sukkot), we read Psalm 27. Each line is pregnant with meaning. I love that each year I find new treasures in this Psalm — whether through my own daily reading or the commentary of others.

Yesterday I read this thought from Mira Neshama Niculescu Weil:

Some commentators say we read this Psalm in Elul because of a play on words in verse 13: לׄׄוּלֵׄ֗ׄאׄׄ הֶ֭אֱמַנְתִּי לִרְא֥וֹת בְּֽטוּב-יְהוָ֗ה בְּאֶ֣רֶץ חַיִּֽים
“Had I not the assurance that I would enjoy the goodness of YHVH in the land of the living…”
The first word of the verse, “LULE” is ELUL in reverse.
We may have felt so far from the “land of the living” this year.
Yet no matter how far we may feel, the month of Elul is an invitation to return:
to reconnect to the Source of Life as we prepare for the Great Encounter [of the High Holy Days].

May the war end this month — today! (From now on I will say this in every column).
May the remaining 101 hostages be returned alive.
May the killing, disease and starvation in Gaza come to an end.
May the people of the West Bank be allowed to return to work inside Israel.
May there be a great Awakening.
May the tragedy of this moment be transformed into healing.

Shabbat Shalom,
Rabbi Amita
רב אמיתה

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THEIR MEMORIES ARE BLESSINGS
A Special Message from Rabbi Amita Jarmon, 9/2/24

Saturday night, a little after 11 pm, I received a notification from Haaretz (my primary source for news and opinions on Israel) that the dead bodies of Hersh Goldberg-Polin and 5 other hostages were found: Ori Danino, Eden Yerushalmi, Almog Sarusi, Alexander Lobanov, and Carmel Gat.  Shortly afterwards, I learned that they had been very recently murdered by their guards, as the IDF approached to rescue them.

This news has rocked Israel and World Jewry perhaps more than any other event since Oct 7 itself.

I spent the next 3 hours on the phone (‘til 2:30 AM) with my closest friend, whose parents, sister and brother have all lived in Israel since the early 80s. (Her brother, Alon Tal, is Israel’s leading environmentalist). Our conversation flowed from sorrow for these fresh losses, to the Gordian Knot that Israel is in, to the value of human life (is one life worth more than another?) and the mysterious journey of the human soul. We spoke about our universal humanity and our particular tribal and ancestral identities. About Judaism and Jews in Israel and in the Diaspora – the blessings and challenges of each, and the need for both.

Before going to sleep at 3 AM on Saturday night, I read and shared this Facebook post by Chaya Kaplan-Lester, a friend in Jerusalem:

Dear Hersh,
I took you as my own.
We all did.
For 330 days
We have arrayed
a fragile glass menagerie
of facts about you…
Your love of travel
And soccer; easy to laughter
Lover of life…and of family.
And you became like family to us.
One of the ones we pray for
– So helplessly –
Over Shabbat candles.
How many prayers did you stir in our hearts?
God alone is left to count those now….
All we can do is take stock
In your loss.
This glass menagerie is shattered
And haunted.
– A world in shock.
Blessings for an aliyat neshamah [a rising of your soul]
along with precious Carmel Gat,
Eden Yerushalmi, Ori Danino,
Almog Sarusi, Alexander Lobanov.
Rest in peace.

Sunday at 9:08 AM, a colleague from the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association posted this to her Instagram page:

TODAY IS A DAY TO ACTIVATE YOUR EMPATHY.

IF YOU ARE RIGHTFULLY DEVASTATED BY THE MURDERS OF THE 6 ISRAELI HOSTAGES, OPEN YOUR HEART TO THE
DEVASTATION THAT HAS BEFALLEN GAZA SINCE OCTOBER.

IF YOU ARE RIGHTFULLY DEVASTATED BY THE DEVASTATION THAT HAS BEFALLEN GAZA SINCE OCTOBER, OPEN YOUR HEART
TO THE PAIN OF THE HOSTAGES AND THEIR LOVED ONES.

ISRAEL AND PALESTINE ARE BOTH SUFFERING – ONE UNDER A TERRORIST REGIME THAT WOULD RATHER KILL
HOSTAGES THAN LET THEM BE RESCUED. THE OTHER UNDER A TYRANNICAL GOVERNMENT THAT WOULD RATHER KEEP
WAR GOING FOREVER THAN RISK LOSING POWER. THE SUFFERING IS NOT EQUAL AND YET THE SOLUTION MUST BE
COLLECTIVE.

THE HOSTAGES DO NOT DESERVE THIS BECAUSE THEY ARE ISRAELI. THE GAZANS DO NOT DESERVE THIS BECAUSE THEY
ARE PALESTINIAN.

THESE ARE LIVES, SACRED, HOLY, FULL DIVINE REFLECTIONS. WHEN WE REFUSE TO SEE BOTH SIDES OF THIS CONFLICT, TO
GRIEVE BOTH SIDES, TERROR AND CALLOUSNESS AND DEATH ARE THE ONLY WINNERS.
~ Rabbi Emily Cohen

Sunday evening, the calls from the Israeli people for a hostage deal and ceasefire increased exponentially. The demonstrations I went to in Tel Aviv in July and Jerusalem in August were relatively small, probably not more than 3,000 per city.

Last night, 500,000 Israelis demonstrated across the country.

Einav Zangauker, mother of hostage Matan, said at the Tel Aviv protest: “My son is still alive, but every day is like a game of Russian roulette that Netanyahu is playing until all the hostages have died!” The hostages, she said, were “sacrificed on the altar of the Philadelphi route” and could have been saved. “My friends who got the terrible news: you’re not alone … I promise that the deaths of your loved ones won’t be in vain.”

And here is a statement from Daniel Chamovitz, president of Ben Gurion University:
“Our government’s recent public decision that the Philadephi corridor trumps any deal for the hostages is morally bankrupt. Our greatest moral value is to bring the abducted back home…

Decades ago Moshe Dayan said that he preferred Sharem el Sheikh over peace. After the Yom Kippur war, as he led negotiations with Egypt, he said only asses don’t change their mind. Let’s hope that our government too can change its mind and choose life over a small strip of land.”

Finally, here is an excerpt from the poem One Tiny Seed, by Rachel Goldberg-Polin, written 67 days into their ordeal:

There is a lullaby that says your mother will cry a thousand tears
before you grow to be a man.
I have cried a million tears in the last 67 days.
We all have.
And I know that way over there
there’s another woman
who looks just like me
because we are all so very similar
and she has also been crying.
All those tears, a sea of tears
they all taste the same.
Can we take them
gather them up,
remove the salt
and pour them over our desert of despair
and plant one tiny seed.

Hersh’s funeral will take place today, September 2nd, at 4:00 p.m. Israel time –
9 AM EDT, in Jerusalem. It will be broadcast live here: https://www.israelnationalnews.com/

On Tuesday at 6 pm, Rabbi Raskin of Chabad of Brattleboro will be hosting a Zoom memorial for all 6 murdered hostages at the following link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89067422695
I intend to be there.

We will devote some time at Shabbat morning services on Sept 7 to remembering these 6 individuals and praying for the remaining living hostages. If you are remembering any other victims of the past 11 months in Israel, Gaza or the West Bank, Israeli or Palestinian, you are welcome to share their names and a few words about them before we say Mourners’ Kaddish together.

May this new month of Elul, which begins at sundown this evening, bring a release of the remaining hostages, all alive, an end to this war, and the beginning of an earnest, successful peace process.

Rabbi Amita
רב אמיתה

Relating to People With Whom We Disagree, 8/23/24

Everything I started to write for this column has been something that I then thought I would prefer to “save” for either Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur. I don’t want to repeat myself, although the attempt to avoid doing so may be fruitless! (I heard a speaker at a Rabbinical School graduation say that every rabbi basically gives the same 2-3 sermons in slightly different iterations throughout their rabbinic careers).

The question of how to stay related to people with whom I disagree about issues that are near and dear to me has been constantly on my mind and in my heart all year. I am sure that this is true for many of us. There is so much polarization in the US, in Israel, and in the world as a whole. In these times, it can be a challenge to stay related to people with whom we previously enjoyed warm relations, and even more challenging to build new relationships when there are significant areas of difference.

(The message of working across the aisle for the common good was repeated over and over again at the DNC).
Some people choose to stay away from others with whom they disagree. It’s too upsetting. We each have a different level of tolerance for disagreement, which may (or may not) stem from our personal histories with conflict.

We can also approach differences with curiosity – as an opportunity to grow. How much am I able to include? How much do I want to stretch to include? To be clear, I am not putting a value judgment on how much one can include. It’s very important to respect our own boundaries. One’s current limit is an interesting place to feel more deeply into. Sometimes, by fully accepting where I am in a given moment, a surprising shift may naturally occur. (And sometimes not).

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I hope you will read the announcement at the bottom of this week’s message about the event on Saturday night, Sept 21, and mark your calendars. 4 Women of Vision from Israel – 2 Jews and 2 Muslims: Bridging Israel’s Diverse Tapestry.  5 Women were going to come, but one of them, a Druze, feels she needs to continue her trauma healing work now with the bereaved community in Majdal Shams.

I am one of the organizers of this tour, but this event (music, dance, the women’s sharing of their stories and their love for one another) will take place at All Souls Church because we expect a lot of attendees, and ASC is donating the space because they too are excited to meet these women. Other local faith communities are being invited.

One of the women, Dorit Bat Shalom, came to Kabbalat Shabbat at BAJC in May.
I experienced Shira Golan, another one of the women, give a concert that was truly one long prayer on July 20. She is extraordinary. https://www.shiragolan.com
Join us for a magical, uplifting Equinox evening!

Report from Israel Visit, 8/15/24

I am very grateful for my recent 3 weeks in Israel-Palestine*, and also grateful to be back in New England.  (*Although I wrote Israel-Palestine, I was inside the Green Line, i.e. Israel proper, for all but half a day, + about 2 days in East Jerusalem, which can be seen as Israel or Palestine. I am always aware that that Land that I love so much and feel so rooted in, has 2 names.)

There is so much I would like to share that I cannot synthesize/squeeze into a column.  I hope many of you will come on Friday evening, Sept 13, to see slides and hear stories and reflections on what I saw, heard and did there.

I returned a few days earlier than planned. My original flight was on Delta. My sisters urged me to re-book on EL AL and get out, knowing that all other airlines that fly between Tel Aviv and the US were suspending flights, and that EL AL seats were selling fast.

Instead of Tisha B’Av in Jerusalem (which had been my plan, and where I have been on Tisha B’Av for the past 15 years), I was in Philadelphia at the Germantown Jewish Center, in a sanctuary full of rabbis.  Listening to the beautiful, haunting melody of Eichah (the book Lamentations), my mind went from the destruction of Jerusalem in 587 BCE (about which Eichah was written), to the destruction in 70 CE, to the destruction of the kibbutzim in the Gaza Envelope on Oct 7, to the ongoing destruction of all the cities in Gaza from Oct 8 through today.

Before the chanting, we studied rabbinic texts about the destruction of the 2nd Temple by Rome, the starvation and the exile, and I was struck by the parallels to the present time.  Both then and now, there were Jews who wanted peace, and Jews who wanted to fight.  Both sects were sure that their way was the right way — the way that would ultimately save Jews and Judaism.  Also amongst Palestinians today, there are those who want to fight to the “end”, and those who want the fighting to stop.

This tension between factions of warriors and peacemakers probably exists in every society, and within each of us.

This reminds me that on my 2nd day in Jerusalem, I was intrigued by the film on the marquee at the Smadar cinema a few blocks from where I used to live —  “The monk and the Gun.”  I certainly wasn’t going to take time out of visiting my friends to watch a film while I was in Jerusalem.  Maybe I’ll watch it this year and learn something worth sharing with you.

July 26, 2024 Letter from Israel

With the ramp-up to November 5, and Biden’s passing the baton to Harris, I imagine that many of you have switched the focus of your attention from Israel-Gaza to the US elections at home.

Before I flew here, I intended to send you a link to a big peace event – The Time is Now – which I watched on livestream on Monday, July 1, already nearly a full month ago.  This gathering brought me to tears several times.  Tears because both Jewish and Palestinian citizens of Israel, were expressing what I feel so deeply, in both spoken word and in music. I felt hopeful seeing the approximately 7,000 people there, with many familiar faces both on the stage and in the audience.

Most speeches were in Hebrew or Arabic, with subtitles in the other language + in English.

https://www.youtube.com/live/nW8kFyft54s?si=VaANWZv49MiMuwtV

I especially recommend listening to Yuval Noah Harari: https://fb.watch/tzkpZLzJ9m/.
Go to minute 1:57 to hear a powerful statement by Israeli rapper Uriya Rosenman and Palestinian rapper Sameh Zakout.

Now I am here.
I am not here on a rabbinic mission as many of my colleagues have been since Oct 7. Having lived here for 12 years just before becoming BAJC’s rabbi, and for 5 years in the 80s and 1 year in 1978-9, I am here to see old friends in person, and to feel what it is like to be on this soil in this most painful, horrendous time.

Some examples of what I have done:

I arrived on Thursday morning the 18th, slept for 5 hrs, and went out in the evening to the dedication of a new Torah Scroll, organized by the family and friends of Hersh Goldberg-Polin, one of the Israeli captives in Gaza.  Hundreds – perhaps several thousand – people processed solemnly through my old neighborhood of Baka.  There had been a ceremony at the starting point in which 120 people wrote the last 120 letters of the scroll, representing the 120 hostages still in Gaza, many of whom are surely no longer alive.

There I ran into several people I knew, and walked around for a few hours in the relatively cool evening air with a colleague visiting from Copenhagen, Rabbi Rebecca Lillian.  Originally from Chicago, she graduated from my rabbinical college in 1995 and married a Danish Jew who is a Yiddish professor.   They live in Copenhagen and she is the half-time rabbi of the Progressive shul in Stockholm.  At the end of our walk I sat on the curb in front of my former residence, and many of the cats I used to feed twice a day immediately came to greet me.  I stayed there enjoying the reunion with my # 1 feline friend, Mila, for an hour.

On Friday I took the train to Pardes Hannah, halfway between Tel Aviv and Haifa, 20 minutes from where our administrator, Martha, is staying.  I spent Shabbat there with my friend, Lisa Waldbaum, whom I met in 2010.  Through her, I became part of a group of Jewish and Palestinian women who met monthly to exchange bodywork, food, conversation and prayer.  Unfortunately, the group disbanded when Lisa left Jerusalem in 2012.  Also through her I joined a Seeds of Peace Educators group, the Sulha Peace Project, met Emma Shamba Ayalom and Dina Awwad who created the Etty Hillesum Cards https://www.ettyhillesumcards.com/  and who facilitate deep processes on Zoom now as well as in person, and became part of an ad hoc group of Israelis who gather annually to observe Yom HaAtzmaut in a unique and somber way that acknowledges and explored the impact of the Nakba.   For more than 12 years, Lisa has administered this FB page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/eventsforpeaceinisraelpalestine

We went to the beach along the aqueduct at Caesarea before Shabbat.  Jews and Palestinians were all enjoying the sea together. It felt very normal.  On Saturday evening we went to a beautiful, uplifting concert by Shira Golan  https://www.shiragolan.com/ whom I met on Zoom through Dorit Bat Shalom. Dorit is an Israeli friend (her family has been in the Land for 7 generations) who came to our May 24 Kabbalat Shabbat, dinner and TEDx talks, and led a circle dance.  Shira Golan sings in Hebrew, Arabic and English.  Her father is from Tunis, so she grew up speaking Arabic as well as Hebrew. She sings songs of love, hope and peace.  The whole concert was a prayer.  They plan to come to the US with 3 other women (Palestinian, Druz and Circassian) in September.  Stay tuned.

On Sunday I returned to Jerusalem in time for dinner with Antonio in a Palestinian restaurant in East Jerusalem just outside Damascus Gate, where he lives. I mentioned Antonio in a recent newsletter.  Born Catholic in Sicily, he converted to Judaism in his 20s, went to rabbinical school at the Conservative Jewish Theological Seminary in his 30s, rabbi’ed in Long Island and Tokyo, and moved to Jerusalem shortly after I did.  We were housemates for 2 years.  He then moved to the Palestinian side of the city, where he basically became part of a Palestinian family, and kept Ramadan and the feasts with them, although he is not a Muslim.  He recently fell in love with a Norwegian man while visiting his elderly parents in Sicily, and plans to move to Norway this year.

After dinner, I went to a birthday party for Lisa Talesnik (my closest friend in Israel), who had just returned that afternoon from Plum Village, the Thich Nhat Hanh community of Mindfulness in Southern France, where she brought a group of West Bank Palestinians, including 2 grandmothers.  This is the 5th year that she has organized groups of Palestinians to go to Plum Village.  On August 9 she will bring another group of Palestinians to an international Youth gathering at Plum Village.  Lisa has also raised 10s of $1000s to get people out of Gaza. She is perhaps the most generous, loving person I have ever met.  I have told both Lisa and Antonio that they should write memoirs, but they are too busy living, loving and helping people to sit down and write.

I went with Lisa on Monday to visit Ibrahim Abu el-Hawa on the Mt of Olives.  He is the older man with a red and white kafia that some of you have probably seen in pictures hugging Rabbi Menachem Froman, z’l.   Find him on FB.   Lisa is part of that family, to the point where she can show up at any time, day or night, and is greeted with hugs by all members of the clan.  She fell asleep on the sofa after brunch and we all followed suit.

On Tuesday I went with her to Bethlehem to pick up her friend Hamdan and take him illegally through the checkpoint to a rehabilitation hospital in Tel Aviv, as he is looking for a good placement for his 7 year old son, who sustained a high cervical spinal cord injury in a car accident nearly 2 years ago.  There is no good place for him to be in the Palestinian territories, and Hamdan was not happy with the hospital in Jerusalem.  The boy has been in a facility in Turkey for 10 months, and Hamdan, who himself has Cerebral Palsy and ambulates with crutches, cannot keep traveling back & forth to Turkey.  The visit to Reut Rehab hospital was miraculous.  Although we showed up without an appointment, he was greeted with open arms by the Palestinian Israeli administrator, and the Jewish Israeli head of the on-site school. Hamdan spent several years in Italy in his 20s, and it turns out that the head of school is an Italian Jew, so they could speak in Italian as well as English.

I took it easy on Wednesday.

Last night (Thursday), I went to the Standing Together (Close the Deal, Stop the War) demonstration in Tel Aviv.  I was hoping that thousands of people would be there, but it seemed to me we were not more than 150o, which was very disappointing.  There were buses organized from around the country, but apparently none of the buses were full. I saw a friend from Haifa, a friend from a kibbutz in the North, and 2 old friends whom I went to summer camp with, one of whom – Lee Perlman – lives in Tel Aviv and wrote and stars in a one-man show about his life, “Prisoner of Zion-Take Two.”  Lee told me he no longer considers himself a Zionist, but he is committed to this Land and the Two Peoples who live here.

I would like to write more, or edit what I have written, but I don’t want to miss Kabbalat Shabbat services starting in ½ hour.  So I share this with you, incomplete, unedited.

Shabbat Shalom with Love,
Rabbi Amita     רב אמיתה

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July 4, 2024

Now Korach, son of Izhar son of Kohath son of Levi took/divided/ separated/ betook himself.

~ Bamidbar (“In the Wilderness”, the book which Aviva Gottlieb Zornberg so aptly refers to as “Bewilderments”) aka Numbers 16:1

Korach is one of the most dramatic stories in Torah, very relevant to this time.

I am copy-pasting the first 1/3 of a commentary hot off the press from my friend, Roberta Wall’s Substack, Torah at the Intersection: Writings from the Intersection of Torah, Buddhism and Nonviolent Communication.

(There are ellipses where I omitted words that did not seem essential)

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This week’s Torah portion tells the story of an open rebellion led by Moses’ cousin Korach, himself a prominent Israelite priest, against the leadership of Moses and Aaron. What did Korach do? The opening verse tells us only that he “took” (vayikach), also translated as “he divided,” “he separated,” or he “betook himself.”

What did Korach take or divide or separate? …Torah leaves that to us to figure out.

It doesn’t say that he took anything; just that he took. And that his taking or separating shook the earth open, swallowing people alive, followed by fire and plague.

“…and the earth opened its mouth and swallowed them up with their households, all Korach’s people and all their possessions.” ~ Numbers 16:32

How has it all led to this? From joyfully crossing the sea and singing their way to freedom to their carcasses dropping in the wilderness? What has to be learned and transformed for the Israelites, and all earthlings, to live in harmony with each other and with the Earth?

In Jewish tradition, understanding the conflict between Moses and Korach is a pivotal stage in the journey to living as free people.

Differences among people are inevitable. How we address them is crucial.

Our ancient sages taught:

“Controversy for the sake of heaven will come to fruition, while that which is not for the sake of heaven will not. Controversy for the sake of heaven: that of Hillel and Shammai [leaders of 2 ancient rabbinical schools of thinking].

Controversy not for the sake of heaven: that of Korach.”

~ Pirkei Avot, Ethics of the Fathers 5:17

Leading from Division [Trauma, Balding, Frozenness]

Korach was stuck in grasping, a quality of taking that disrupts the natural balance of giving and receiving because it is never satisfied by obtaining an object. It is so caught that only grasping itself, taking itself, becomes the object. From his position of power and influence, Korach created the world that the rabbis called the “world of separation,” one where “each creature looks out for itself.” (S’fat Emet, Language of Truth.)

The Lubavitcher Rebbe, [because the root of Korach’s name is the same as the root meaning “balding”]… taught that Korach created a bald spot between people.

Instead of connection, between the leaders and people, among the people, and between YHVH (“Eternally Present”) and the people, Korach created separation.

In Hebrew, the word Korach also shares the same root as “ice.” Korach is frozen. Perhaps, as commentators suggest, this is why he takes nothing. He is frozen off from any meaning and purpose. He takes and divides because he is locked into the cycle of taking and dividing. This is characteristic of trauma-induced responses, often described as frozen life.

As trauma therapist Resmaa Menakem says, when a person, or the collective, experiences something disturbing or painful … without time or support to process or digest, the pain becomes locked up. It becomes an unprocessed frozen part of the organism. It loses the capacity to receive and confidence that it has something valuable to give.

The Israelites’ trauma of slavery is still unhealed and they have not developed the capacity to process new traumas from their journey through the wilderness. [In last week’s Torah portion, Shlach L’cha] brought to the edge of the Promised Land, they were consumed with fear that the land would “devour” them. They are now doomed by the decree that all of them…except for two young leaders, would die in the wilderness.

Korach and his followers entangle the whole community in a trauma-led response to the suffering they all have witnessed and experienced …

Earth swallows the rebels alive so they have the space to heal. It seems that every generation needs individual and collective inner healing so that the next generations can enter and live in the Promised Land, not seeing enemies, delighting in a land flowing with life.

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If you resonate with or are intrigued by the above commentary, I invite you to:

1) subscribe to Roberta’s substack here

2) come to services this Shabbat morning, if not for the prayers beginning at 10, then for the Torah service at 11ish, when the 3 aliyot will be based on themes from this Torah portion.

Today, on this 4th of July, may we feel deep gratitude for the freedoms we enjoy that must not be taken for granted. May we commit to working to maintain and protect them for ourselves and for the generations to come, and to establish or restore them for those who are not blessed to live in places where basic human rights and freedoms are a given.

May we live and work from a perspective that recognizes and respects differences, while seeing and feeling the underlying unity.

Shabbat Shalom, שבת שלום

Rabbi Amita רב אמיתה

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Including BAJC in your Smachot (Simchahs) and Tsarot (Tsuris)
June 20, 2024

Last weekend, two meaningful community events were held at 151 Greenleaf.

On Shabbat morning, Chris Mansfield and Laura Berkowitz celebrated their recent marriage with a special service.  Chris and Laura both led a lot of the singing and prayers. Laura gave a moving D’var Torah. The service was followed by a beautiful oneg (lunch) that they prepared.  (Oneg literally means delight)

We were double chai participants – 35 in person + 1 on Zoom.  Our farmhouse overflowed with loving, joyful energy.

On Sunday afternoon, 16 BAJC members and friends showed up in person to support Ellen Appel Bronstein in mourning her brother who passed the previous Monday.  A minyan of Ellen’s other friends and relatives joined via Zoom.

Coming out to support one another in both our Simchahs (celebrations) and Tsuris (sorrows), is an essential part of being a community.  It is an act of generosity to share significant transitional moments in our lives with BAJC, whether or not you feel able to give a D’var Torah, sing, lead prayers, or financially sponsor an Oneg/lunch.

It is common practice in synagogues for people to “sponsor” onegs at yahrzeits, wedding anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.  Most of us have family, friends and community outside of BAJC-Shir Heharim, i.e. other communities to celebrate and mourn with. It’s possible to celebrate and mourn in more than one space, with more than one community.

Please think about sponsoring an oneg in the coming year, and let me know in advance if there is a date that you would like to do this. ravamita@bajcvermont.org . Cost is likely to be about $10 per person.

We have a Rekindle Shabbat grant from the Harold Grinspoon Foundation to help fund Shabbat meals if you would like to celebrate a simchah or honor a loved one’s yahrzeit and need some support with the cost.

Please contact me if you would be willing to reach out to members in advance of their relatives’ yahrzeits (we have a comprehensive list) to invite them to sponsor an oneg.

Another simchah to celebrate in Jewish community is a housewarming (aka chanukat habayit – literally a house dedication) whether your home is purchased or rented.  Invite us to come over with food and witness you (or participate in) putting up a mezuzah and blessing your home.

One of our members has tentatively scheduled a housewarming/mezuzah-affixing for her newish home on Sunday, August 25.  

Please let me know if you would like to do this.  A mezuzah cannot be put up on Shabbat, so this would best be done on a Sunday, on a Saturday evening after sundown, or on a weekday evening.

I hope to see you this weekend at Julian’s Bar Mitzvah on Shabbat morning at West Village Meetinghouse, and/or at the Interfaith Pride service on Sunday morning, and/or at our BBQ/potluck and Annual Meeting on Sunday, starting with a 4:15 Mezuzah-affixing on at least one of our farmhouse’s naked doors.

Shabbat Shalom  שבת שלום,

Rabbi Amita  רב אמיתה

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From Agricultural Harvest and Pilgrimage to Caffeine and
Cheesecake-Infused All-Night Learning
June 10, 2024

Shavuot שבועות is a holiday that many Jews in North America have never celebrated.  Like Pesach and Sukkot, it was originally a harvest festival, and one of 3 times a year that the Israelites were commanded to make a pilgrimage to the Temple in Jerusalem.  Shavuot, which literally means “Weeks” is also known as Chag HaKatzir– the harvest. On the 2nd day of Pesach, the barley harvest began and continued for 7 weeks (the Omer period); on Sukkot, the fruits and vegetables are gathered in.  In between them, on Shavuot, is the beginning of the wheat harvest.

Another name for Shavuot is Chag HaBikurim ביכורים, the festival of the First Fruits.

Having grown up in a secular family in which we celebrated Chanukah, Passover, and quasi-observed High Holidays, the first time I celebrated Shavuot was on Kibbutz Gal-On in 1978.  The first fruits of the kibbutz were paraded around on wagons and brought to the dining hall.  This included all of the best agricultural produce, baby animals, the human babies born since the previous Shavuot, and in the case of Kibbutz Gal-On, the newest products from their fan and air conditioner factory.

Another name for Shavuot is Zman Matan Torateinu – the Time of the Giving of our Torah.  This name was given to this harvest festival by the rabbis of the Talmud, based on Exodus 19:1: “On the third new moon after the Israelites had gone forth from the land of Egypt, on that very day, they entered the wilderness of Sinai.”  The rabbis of the Talmud really stretched in their associations and explanations of almost everything.  They were ingeniously creative, transforming Biblical, land-based, Temple-sacrifice-centered Judaism into a religious civilization that functioned and flourished outside of the Land of Israel.

It wasn’t until 1986, when living in Jerusalem, that I went to my first Tikkun Leil Shavuot – all night Shavuot Torah study session.  When I left Jerusalem in 1988, I moved to West Mount Airy, Philadelphia, which was (and still is) full of Reconstructionist Rabbis and rabbinical students. There, I continued to enjoy these all-night learning sessions  – which entailed significant caffeine consumption, as well as cheesecake.  [Elliott Horowitz wrote a 1989 article, “Coffee, Coffeehouses, and the Nocturnal Rituals of Early Modern Jewry,” about the importance of coffee in the nocturnal rituals of mid-16th century Jewry, most famously among the Kabbalists of Tzfat where the Tikkun Leil Shavuot originated].

A long-time member of BAJC commented last week that they thought 4 hours (6-10 pm) is a bit long for an event on a weeknight.  I replied that in Jerusalem (and in West Mt Airy and in an increasing number of other places), the Tikkun Leil Shavuot begins at 11 PM and continues until dawn.  In Jerusalem, people nap in the evening, get up around 10 pm, and wander from one learning session to another throughout the night.  At around 4 AM, thousands of people start streaming towards the Kotel from all over the city to daven Shacharit (morning prayers), and then walk home and sleep.

It’s impossible to replicate the power of this experience outside of Jerusalem, and as is true of all other Jewish holidays and practices, it’s a challenge for non-Orthodox people (especially if you don’t live in Mt Airy, Brooklyn, the Upper West Side or other cities with thriving Jewish communities) to commit to setting aside the time (including taking days off work) to fully experience all that Judaism offers us.

I’m very excited that this Shavuot (tomorrow evening), Heather Brubaker and Patti Frankel will each be teaching topics related to Megillat Ruth, the biblical scroll/book that is read on Shavuot.  Stephan will conclude our official program with gonging, which I highly recommend.  The gonging will induce an altered state — perhaps even some degree of revelation.

Pretty much anything goes for a Tikkun Leil Shavuot.  I am including some links to Tikkunim that have taken place in the past or will take place tomorrow night, for you to see the variety of exciting, creative topics offered.  I guarantee that many of these will whet your appetites.

https://mmjccm.org/sites/default/files/2024-06/6706922816_Tikkun2024_Grid_Poster_24x36_1%20%281%29.pdf

https://germantownjewishcentre.org/tikkun-leyl-shavuot-2023/

https://www.pardes.org.il/shavuot

Maybe next year you will be one of our teachers/facilitators. Start thinking now about what you might want to teach!

Shavuot is also one of the 4 times a year that we say Yizkor – in the morning.

Chag Sameach חג שמח  

Rabbi Amita  רב אמיתה

Rabbi’s Words, 5/31/24

We are all going through different states and processes in relation to the war between Israel and Hamas (and Hezbollah).

While I continue to read papers (especially Haaretz English edition) and listen to podcasts (eg Jewish Currents On the Nose, Hartman Institute’s For Heaven’s Sake, and Judaism Unbound), I am no longer spending hours a day glued to screens following every incident, every statement, every action and reaction. I am no longer watching webinars every other day.

Like so many of us, my body, mind and emotions were consumed with the horror in Israel-Palestine for almost 7 months.  Without making a conscious choice to change my relationship to the situation, I find myself feeling more present in recent weeks. I am and will always be deeply connected to the Land and Peoples of that place — clearly one of Earth’s most powerful acupuncture points; but that does not mean I need to be consumed. Perhaps it’s because it is so beautiful here now – the trees and flowers — and it’s warm enough for those of us who are not polar bears to swim.

As it happens, in the midst of writing this, my friend “F” just called me from his parents’ home in Sicily.  “F” was my favorite housemate during 9 years of sharing a 4 bedroom apartment with a rotating cast of > 40 people in Jerusalem.  (I took the risk of renting it, and found flatmates for the other 3 bedrooms).  A gay Italian man, raised in Sicily, “F” converted to Judaism in his 20s, moved to NYC in his 30s, became a Conservative rabbi, served a shul in Long Island, then a shul in Tokyo.  I met him in Jerusalem around 2013, shortly after he immigrated to Israel.  We had a few superficial conversations in our first year of acquaintance. I didn’t know much about him. One day, I was on a tour of the Muslim Quarter with my beginning Arabic class, along with the intermediate and advanced classes. The tour was in Arabic and I was missing ¾ of the explanations. Eventually I noticed that “F” was with us – among about 50 other students.  Whenever I had seen him before, he had a volume of the Talmud or some other Jewish text in his hands.  I did not know that he was learning Arabic. I asked him which level he was in.  Beyond advanced, he was getting private lessons with the best teacher in the school.  Me: “How did you become so fluent in Arabic?” F: “I had a Palestinian boyfriend for the past 2 years.”  A few months after that tour, he moved into one of the rooms in my flat and stayed there for 2 years. During that time, he became close with another Palestinian man who owns a small grocery store and bakery near Damascus Gate.  He moved from my flat to a flat owned by the bakery owner, a few doors down from the bakery, and since then (for 7 years) has lived there, and lived most of his social life in Arabic, keeping Ramadan with the family, going to all the wedding and funerals, taking them all to their medical appointments, helping them with bureaucratic issues, and experiencing up close the increased repression and brutality of the police and the violence of right wing gangs against East Jerusalem Palestinians since this war began. He has plenty of well informed critique of Islam and of Palestinian society (where it’s not possible in Jerusalem or the West Bank – much less Gaza – to be out as a gay person), and even more critique of Israeli society – for obvious other reasons.

He called tonight to share with me the exciting news that while visiting his parents in Sicily, he fell in love with a Norwegian man who was there on vacation. (Can you get any further away culturally from Palestine/Israel than Norway?!)  I haven’t heard him sound this happy in years.  My point being that even “F”, whose life is deeply intertwined (entangled) with the lives of the members of this East Jerusalem Palestinian chamulah (extended family), has been able to be fully present with a Norwegian in Sicily for the past month.

I said to him: “I am acutely aware that while I can take a mental break from the horror and hopelessness, the hostages and their families, the soldiers on active duty and their families, the people of Gaza, the West Bank Palestinians (who have not had any freedom of movement and have not been allowed into Israel to work since Oct 7), and the Israeli residents on the Lebanese border and the Gaza envelope regions — none of those people can take a break.”  He replied: “That is true, but your constant preoccupation and psychological suffering does not make it any easier on them.”

My relation to the situation may change again, especially as I intend to go there for 3-4 weeks in July and August.  I am enjoying being present here now, and am holding the intention to maintain this level of presence and groundedness when I am in that Land.

I initially intended to write my column this month about Shavuot, which is coming up on June 11-13, but this is what emerged.  Shavuot will have to wait until next week’s email. I encourage you to join Heather Brubaker, Patti Frankel, Stephan Brandstatter and myself on Tuesday evening, June 11, for a few hours of text study, experiential learning, meditation – maybe even some revelation.

Meanwhile, for more on Shavuot, you may go to https://bajcvermont.org/divrei-harav-rabbis-words/ and scroll down to reread the column I wrote on May 25, 2023: “Receiving the Torah at Sinai, and Why We Eat Dairy on Shavuot.”

Today is the 38th day of the Omer – Tiferet in Yesod = Beauty/Compassion within Foundation/Grounding.  Rabbi Simon Jacobson calls this the day of Compassion in Bonding.  Rav Benji Elson teaches it as the day of Developing Trust and Healthy Vulnerability for the Sake of Relationship.  It’s never too late to wade into the 49-day Omer counting and contemplation process!

Holidays in Nissan-Iyyar, 5/3/24

In addition to the ongoing Sefirat HaOmer (counting of the Omer), May (Nissan-Iyyar) is a period with several important contemporary Jewish holidays. Yom HaShoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day) is on the 27th of Nissan, this coming Sunday, May 5 at sundown through Monday at sundown.  One week later, on Iyyar 4 (this year it’ll be on Iyyar 5, Sunday May 12, as Shabbat trumps all other holidays), Israelis observe Yom HaZikaron – Memorial Day for fallen soldiers and terror victims. The very next day, Israelis celebrate Yom Ha’atzmaut – Israeli Independence Day.

Starting my first year after returning to Israel in 2009, I attended the Joint Memorial (Israeli and Palestinian) organized by Combatants for Peace and the Bereaved Families Forum, in Tel Aviv.  One year, when West Bank Palestinians were not allowed into Israel for this ceremony, I watched it in a crowded hall in Beit Jala  – a Palestinian town between Jerusalem and Bethlehem.  Since the pandemic, I have been watching it via livestream, which I intend to do again this year.  Please read the info about the Joint Memorial near the bottom of this newsletter, register and tune in on May 12 at 1:30 EDT.  Or simply register here. (You can also watch past ceremonies on youtube.)

It’s surreal to be in Israel on the eve of Yom Ha’atzmaut, as the heavy, somber mood of the previous 25 hours tapers off and everyone starts celebrating. It always feels very unnatural to go from mourning, especially in a country where for so many, the mourning is fresh and personal – to festivities. It will be even harder for everyone this year.

I remember joyfully and proudly celebrating Yom Ha’atzmaut in 1979 (my first visit to Israel). In my recent 12 years there, I observed those days differently.  In 2010 and 2011 I wandered the city, from Israeli folk dancing in one square to loud pop music at other squares. Jerusalem was a sea of people with balloons and little plastic hammers bopping one another on the head. It seemed inane to me, as well as way too loud. I couldn’t get into the mood.

In 2012 I started going to an alternative Yom Ha’atzmaut event in Jerusalem, a torch lighting honoring peace and justice activists. In 2014, I was invited to a “Nakba-Atzma’ut” weekend in Nazareth, organized by an independent group of Israelis and Palestinians (not an NGO).  Understandably, very few Palestinians want to be with Jewish Israelis on this day, so we were about 85% Israelis with a few Palestinian friends, most of whom were also presenters and facilitators. The next few years we met at Neve Shalom (Oasis of Peace), the joint Jewish-Palestinian village between Jerusalem and Tel Aviv.  Then at Eilabun, a Palestinian village in the Galilee.  Three years ago we met at the ruins of a village in the Jezreel Valley, the population of which was absorbed into Uhm El Fahm, a city of about 60,000 Palestinians. For me, this was a meaningful way to observe Yom Ha’atzmaut – acknowledging the impact of our Independence on the majority of the residents of the Land in 1948, and the legacy of the Nakba.

Visiting the ruins of a Palestinian village
near Uhm El Fahm (not far from Haifa)
at the annual Nakba-Atzmaut gathering.

I feel it’s important to clarify that I chose to do this every Yom Ha’atzma’ut, knowing that none of the Israelis grappling with the Nakba at those observances thought that Israel had no right to exist as a Jewish State with equal human and civil rights for all of its citizens, which was the original intention as expressed in its Declaration of Independence. Perhaps some of us would be equally happy with an official binational state. I am certain that none of the Jews at those Nakba-Atzma’ut gatherings would have picked up and left the country with the idea that it should all be returned to the descendants of the Palestinians who fled in 1948.

One essential paragraph in Israel’s Declaration of Independence says:

“THE STATE OF ISRAEL will be open for Jewish immigration and for the Ingathering of the Exiles; it will foster the development of the country for the benefit of all its inhabitants; it will be based on freedom, justice and peace as envisaged by the prophets of Israel; it will ensure complete equality of social and political rights to all its inhabitants irrespective of religion, race or sex; it will guarantee freedom of religion, conscience, language, education and culture; it will safeguard the Holy Places of all religions; and it will be faithful to the principles of the Charter of the United Nations.”

Unfortunately, much needs to be changed in Israel to fulfill the above intention.  And of course, after 1967, the rights and lives of Palestinians in the West Bank and Gaza have been eroded and destroyed, the present period being the worst in Israel’s 76 year history.

And still, I am very grateful for all of my years in that Land, and for all of my ongoing friendships with people on both sides of the Green Line.

Israel has brought a lot of good not only to the Jewish People but to the world.  Unfortunately, right now, all of Israel’s positive contributions are darkly overshadowed by the destruction of Gaza and the intensified restrictions on West Bank Palestinians, and the marauding by Extremists in the West Bank under the cover of this war.

I pray for the light and love of Israel to shine brightly, together with the light and love of Palestine.

Rabbi Amita

רב אמיתה

This Seder is Different from All other Seders, 4/19/24

Every year, before every Holiday (and for that matter, every Torah portion) my inbox is filled with creative commentary and innovative suggestions for how to approach the Torah reading or holiday.

In the past 6 months, the volume of new material has increased exponentially. In the weeks and days leading up to Pesach, I have received dozens of emails about how to approach the Seder from a variety of perspectives. As I wrote last week, we will be using a combination of the J-Street haggadah from 2020, and Bayit’s brand-new “This Broken Matzah.” BAJC member Patti Frankel just sent me a link to an excellent new Haggadah supplement from the Hartman Institute, which, had I seen it a week ago, I might be able to integrate into what I have already planned together with BAJC member Marsha Stern. If curious, you may download it at https://www.hartman.org.il/program/in-every-generation/#66c4723

I know and deeply respect several of the contributors personally.

I invite you to listen to Hadar’s beautiful version of Min HaMeitzar (from the Narrow Place), Psalm 118:5-6. This is part of Hallel, sung at the Seders and on every day of Pesach as well as most other Holidays https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMe4-ggSkdY

At the 2nd Seder we begin the exciting practice of Sefirat HaOmer.

Sefirat HaOmer is not merely counting – although counting in itself can be worthwhile – the awareness of each day/step of the journey between Pesach and Shavuot, Egypt and Mt Sinai, Redemption and Revelation.  This is a Kabbalistic practice of contemplating divine emanations.  Put simply, in this 49 day period we explore different qualities within ourselves and how they interact.

The first week is the week of Chesed (lovingkindness), the 2nd week is the week of Gevurah (discipline, boundaries), etc.  So for example, day 8 (the 1st day of week 2) is the day of Chesed within Gevurah – i.e.  the quality of lovingkindness within the quality of discipline.  As one Omer Counter (by Simon Jacobson) suggests, on day 1 of week 2, we might ask ourselves: “When I judge and criticize another, is it in any way tinged with any of my own contempt and irritation? Is there any hidden satisfaction in his failure? Or is it only out of love for the other?”

There are many Omer counters with meditations for each night. Here’s Simon Jacobson’s free online Omer counter on the Chabad website: https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/130631/jewish/Sefirat-HaOmer.htm

For anyone who sees “Chabad” and shuts down, I hope you will reconsider your judgment. Although you (and I) may differ with Chabad’s social, political and religious perspectives, there is much to learn from Chabad spiritually/psychologically.

If you prefer to look elsewhere, there are MANY Omer guides you can purchase, and I suggest doing so today, before we begin counting next Tuesday night. Some recommendations:

The newest one I know of is Benji Elson’s Dance of the Omer, 2021, fascinating with an overwhelming amount of information, involving water – stream, ocean, clouds… https://www.amazon.com/Dance-Omer-Step-Step-Transformational/dp/965929171X

Yael Levy’s Journey through the Wilderness: A Mindfulness Approach to the Ancient Jewish Practice of Counting the Omer is short and sweet.

Counting the Omer: A Kabbalistic Meditation Guide, by Min Kantrowitz provides a practice for each of the “4 worlds” for each evening: action, feeling, wisdom, spirit.

Those three (+ Rav Simon Jacobson’s paperback) are the ones that I own and have used, as well as my very first Omer Counter, purchased 35 years ago, which I think is no longer in print:  49 Gates of Light by Rabbi Yonassan Gershom. (Andi Waisman still uses it).  I just found Y. Gershom’s blog here, Notes from a Jewish Thoreau: http://rooster613.blogspot.com/2014/04/since-my-old-website-went-down-people.html

Shabbat Shalom, with Blessings for a Meaningful, hopeful Pesach, wherever you will be for the Seder/s. 

Rabbi Amita רב אמיתה

On the subject of Hope, I invite you to watch, listen, FEEL this 15-minute April 17 TED talk with Aziz Abu Sarah and Maoz Inon:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0juLRi90kRg

And in the spirit of one of Passover’s central messages, “All who are Hungry Come and Eat,” consider donating to World Central Kitchen and/or the International Rescue Committee either directly or via the New Israel Fund here .

THIS BROKEN MATZAH, 4/10/24

As I wrote last week, we will be addressing Israel-Palestine in this year’s seder.

The main Haggadah we will use will be the J-street Haggadah from 4 years ago.

Our world – and especially the world for the people in Israel-Palestine – has changed radically since then. However, the questions posed in this 2020 Haggadah remain relevant.  The seder is a night of questions, and Judaism in general is a religion and culture of questioning.  Our seder is a space for questions, contemplation and discussion, not for arguing.

One person wrote to me that he felt it was strange for Jews to be indulging in such opulence at the seder meal while famine ravages tens of thousands of Palestinians.

I am sure he is not the only one with such qualms. If you would like to participate in the seder and feel this way,  you are welcome to register and pay $10 to cover matzah, maror, karpas, grape juice, rent and security.  I am sincere in this invitation.

Another person said she felt like using drops of her own blood instead of wine to represent the plagues.  You are welcome to bring a sterile needle and do this. (Again, I am not being facetious).

Today I saw another new Haggadah from Bayit’s Liturgical Arts Working Group, called * This Broken Matzah, featuring work by Trisha Arlin, R. Rachel Barenblat, Joanne Fink, R. Dara Lithwick, R. David Evan Markus, R. Sonja Keren Pilz, Steve Silbert, and R. David Zaslow. They write:

“How do we celebrate Pesach in a year like this one? Everything about the seder lands differently after the last six months. This offering emerges out of our grief and our hope. No two pieces are coming from exactly the same place. There are so many emotions — even within a single heart, much less around any given seder table. We hope these prayers, poems, and works of art will help you make this Pesach what you need it to be.”

We will integrate parts of that Haggadah into the J-Street one.

One piece of the 2nd night seder that does not occur at the first night seder is Sefirat HaOmer – Counting the Omer.  This is a meaningful contemplative practice that begins on the 2nd night of Pesach and leads us to Shavuot, 50 nights later.  I will be including some teaching about Sefirat HaOmer in next week’s Intro to Jewish Prayer class on Friday, April 19 from 4:30-6:00 pm.  Come at 5:15 to learn about this practice if you are interested, whether or not you are interested in Jewish Prayer.

A DARK, HEAVY CLOUD, 4/4/24

Divrei HaRav, VaYishlach

December 1, 2023

I am writing this on Dec 1st, exactly two years since I began serving as rabbi of this community. This Shabbat also happens to be the Torah portion called VaYishlach, in which Ya’akov (Jacob), through his wrestling, becomes Yisrael.  One of the translations of Yisrael is God-Wrestler.  This was my Bat Mitzvah Torah portion, at age 29, and the day that I adopted my name, Amita אמיתה, meaning Truth.  I chose this name because it described(s) me in several ways.  a) I am honest and direct, sometimes to a fault.  b) I wear my heart on my sleeve and am without pretense.

c) I have always made sincere efforts to discern the truth in any situation, whether personal or political, i.e. to the extent that it is possible to uncover the Truth.  Is there ever one Truth?

I also chose the name Amita אמיתה to inspire me to continue to grow into my Truth… not on an intellectual level, but in a fully embodied life. Living our Truth – which is not a static thing, but an evolving process — is an important part of the work and play of being human.

We often take a mental snapshot of a person or a People and form a fixed idea of who that person/People is/are, obscuring the reality that we are each a movement, not a fixed object.

This continues to be an excruciatingly painful, frightening period for anyone with any connection to Israel or Palestine.  Some people come down clearly on one “side” or the other.  I continue to wrestle.  In my all too rare, peaceful moments, I sit calmly holding the whole complex, tragic mess. I am not interested in the “peace” of separating myself from the situation. Yes, sometimes we need to walk outside, enjoy the natural beauty around us, enjoy our friends and families. We need to pause – allow ourselves Shabbatot – from the agony of what is transpiring in the Holy Land. And then re-engage, in whatever ways we can, without going off the deep end.

I include here a link to a piece in the VTDigger for which I was interviewed this week.

https://vtdigger.org/2023/11/29/after-burlington-shooting-faith-leaders-feel-community-support-strength-and-fear/

On a positive note, last week I began participating in a Zoom study group using the book The Israel-Palestine Conflict: Contested Histories (Contesting the Past) 2nd Edition, Neil Caplan. It was a very well facilitated, safe sharing. I am very inspired to offer the same opportunity to you – a structured yet spacious discussion.  Thus far, 2 people have expressed interest.  I will facilitate this group if there are a minimum of 6 committed people for a 6-week period, 2 hours per session.  We will meet on Zoom.

If there are 6 of you who are interested, we will look for a time that works for everyone.

I look forward to being with many of you this Shabbat, at the Yalla Chaverim family service at 5 pm, at which all are welcome.  If you plan to stay for dinner, please bring food to share.  (We already have plenty of pizza!)  Nearly 80 people (80 is the max capacity) have RSVP’ed for dinner at Next Stage Arts tomorrow evening, Dec 2. I am excited to see you there. Please plan to arrive at 4:45 so that we can begin the meal as close to 5 pm as possible and start cleanup at 6:30, before the concert goers show up.

I also include here a link to a piece by my dear friend, Roberta Wall, from her blog Torah at the Intersection: Writings from the Intersection of Torah, Buddhism and Nonviolent Communication. Trigger warning! I was triggered by parts of this, but that’s life. Do we want to grow beyond our triggers, and if so, how might we accomplish that?

https://torahattheintersection.com/wrestling-with-narrative-making-meaning-of-our-experience-torah-at-the-intersection-vayishlach/

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Amita רב אמיתה

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In Mitzrayim – The Double Bind
October 26, 2023

I feel that the Jewish People are in a more agonizing situation now than we have ever been in.  Of course the Shoah involved a far greater loss of life.  But during the Shoah there was no moral dilemma for us.  We are now living with multiple layers of anguish.

1st, more than 1300 innocent people were brutally tortured and massacred, and over 200 taken hostage. It is especially agonizing that so many of the victims were dedicated, courageous peace activists –  the very people who had been helping Bedouin in the Negev and Palestinians in the West Bank and Gaza for decades.

2nd, Israelis have so much blood on our hands now, we are suffering as victims and perpetrators at the same time.

I participated in a study session with T’ruah (Rabbinic Call for Human Rights) earlier this week, in which we studied several texts, including a traditional rabbinic commentary on Genesis 32, in which Jacob is informed that Esau is coming to meet him with 400 men.  “Jacob was very frightened and distressed.”  Rabbi Yehuda ben Rabbi Ilai said: The fright and the distress are not the same. Rather, he was frightened lest he kill, and distressed lest he be killed. He said: ‘If he overcomes me, may he not kill me, and if I overcome him, may I not kill him.’”

3rd, almost every Israeli and every Palestinian in Israel-Palestine is now living in fear of one other.  This is especially true in and around Jerusalem.

4th, the “Arab street” in all the surrounding countries is inflamed and the whole region is becoming destabilized.

5th, this has kicked up a huge wave of global anti-Semitism, especially on the Left.

I have spent hours deliberating about what I want to share with you here. Type and delete, type and delete.  I know that whatever I write, I will upset some of you.

One of my closest friends in Jerusalem for 12 years has unfriended me.  I know that he is in deep pain and feels betrayed by me.

I argue (mostly in my mind) with people calling for continuing the bombardment and invasion until Hamas is destroyed.  And I argue (also mostly in my mind) with those who criticize Israel for its reaction to the Oct 7 (Black Sabbath/Simchat Torah) massacre.

I go back and forth and tie myself up in mental and emotional knots.  I know many, many Jews – both here and in Israel – who are tied up in these knots.

Israel is in the worst Mitzrayim (literally, double bind) in our history. 

We cannot live alongside Hamas. Most people around the world do not understand how tiny Israel is (the size of New Jersey) and how close Gaza is to the communities where the massacre took place.

Lewiston, Maine, where a crazy person went on a killing spree Wednesday night, is much farther from Brattleboro than Gaza is from Tel Aviv or Jerusalem. Yet when the doorbell rang at 10 pm Weds night (which turned out to be my housemate who had forgotten her key), I freaked out.

As another American Israeli friend wrote:

“There are many people who blindly support Hamas as if they represent the Palestinians, and justify the merciless attack on unarmed civilians. They turn a blind eye to the utter repression that Hamas has visited on its own people, depriving them of a decent life and livelihood at the expense of arming as well as enriching themselves.

Hamas has built hundreds of miles of tunnels under the Gaza strip to hide their weapons and to be able to make their way into Israel to carry out attacks against civilians; yet they have not seen fit to build bomb shelters for their own people. The opposite is the case: They use their own people, including women and children, as human shields in the hope that Israel will kill them and thus score a media and diplomatic victory.”

And at the same time, the fact remains that the IDF has killed and wounded thousands of people since Oct 7.  And I do not believe that Hamas can be destroyed.  So how will all of this killing help Israel? Many Israelis believe that after this war, after the destruction of Hamas, the people of Gaza will thank us for throwing off the yoke of their oppressors. They fantasize that Gaza will then become a model society, like Germany after WWII.  I do not see this happening.

I feel the need to clarify for anyone who is not aware, that the phrase “From the River to the Sea, Palestine will be Free!” is a call for the destruction of Israel. The Left is using this rallying cry, and I think (at least I hope) that many well-intentioned people do not realize that it is a genocidal statement.  Where will the Jews of Israel go?   And why do the Palestinians deserve the right to national self-determination while the Jews do not?  It is one thing to call for a Two-State Solution, and quite another to use the River to Sea slogan.

It’s so easy for people in North America and Europe to criticize Israel.  The self-righteousness of the Western Left, including many Jews, is deeply disturbing and one-sided.

I am absolutely furious with the Israeli government and the Settler movement, but I also love so much about Israeli society and I love so many Israelis.

I am not comfortable with criticism of Israel from people who do not also deeply love Israel. It’s much easier to receive criticism from people who love you than from people who dislike you or who don’t even know you.

It is easy to call for freedom and justice from the comfort of the Green State.  It’s so easy to pronounce land recognitions and support the Abenaki in theory, knowing that no Abenaki are going to slaughter us.

I am an Israeli citizen. I lived there for 18 years.  And I am also a US citizen, with the privilege of being able to live here now.  The majority of Israelis do not hold dual citizenship, and have nowhere else to go.  We cannot undo history.  Yet, somehow, Israelis and Palestinians must find a way to live together.

The people I respect the most are the Israelis and Palestinians who stand together and refuse to be enemies at this agonizing time for all of us.

Here are links to a few pieces I have read or listened to in the past week, representing different views. I imagine that many of you have already read or listened to these and to many other sources.

Rachel Goldberg’s plea at the UN on Wednesday:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BULds4Wmlm4

https://www.npr.org/2023/10/17/1206359243/survivors-of-the-hamas-attack-on-kibbutz-beeri-describe-the-apocalyptic-scene

Pleas for Peace by Israelis whose family members were slaughtered or abducted

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/middle-east/gaza-hamas-hostages-israel-palestinian-b2433971.html?fbclid=IwAR0Ob1fo84OZNZvj3NxsoX13J_KuPA2SbElRN2g9s5W7riyjZQVF8khOnhY

Israeli and Palestinian Peace Activists

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPB1Ejj_9o0

Hamas Slaughtered My Wokeness

https://www.tabletmag.com/…/hamas-slaughtered-wokeness

The Sin of Moral Equivalence (this was easier to hear when published on Oct 12 than it is now.  A bit simplistic, but I still think it’s worth a listen)

https://www.samharris.org/blog/the-sin-of-moral-equivalence

I am leaving on Sunday for a retreat with my teacher, Thomas Hubl, and 220 people with whom I have been learning and practicing for nearly 2 years.  Thomas, not a Jew, was born in Austria.  He is married to an Israeli artist whom he met in Berlin. They live in Tel Aviv with their teenage daughter.  His work and teaching is about personal, ancestral and collective trauma integration.  Thomas said that the current situation is not for us to understand with our minds.  

I do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes we have no choice but to sit in the dark and accept that there are things we cannot understand.

May all of this pain and suffering miraculously be transformed into a peaceful way forward for Jews and Palestinians – a way that most of us do not yet see.

Rabbi Amita  רב אמיתה

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Message fromRabbi Ben Weiner of Jewish Community of Amherst in response to the attacks in Israel. This was also read at BAJC’s Vigil on October 12th.

Shabbat Shalom,          Rabbi Amita         רב אמיתה

Receiving the Torah at Sinai, and Why We Eat Dairy on Shavuot
May 25, 2023

Today is the last day of the 49-day Omer Counting period, the journey from Liberation to Revelation. At sundown this evening, Shavuot begins.

It is well-known that on Pesach we are instructed to re-experience coming out of Mitzrayim (the archetypical tight spot). On Shavuot we are invited to re-experience standing together at Sinai, hearing God speaking clearly and directly to each of us, in community. The community piece is essential. We are the only religion with the foundational understanding that Divine Truth was revealed to an entire people, not just to one individual.

We believe (or at least imagine) that the soul of every Jew alive today, whether a Jew by birth or by choice (conversion), was present at this moment of Revelation.

Jewish holidays are an invitation not only to mentally remember mythohistorical events (the border between myth and history in Torah is blurry), but to re-experience the essence of those events with our hearts and bodies as well as our minds, whether or not they actually took place.

This week I attended a Jewish meditation group in which for the first time I heard the suggestion to think of the Ten Commandments, which in Hebrew are called the 10 Dibrot (from the root ד–ב–ר / d-v-r, meaning both utterance and thing), as 10 Practices. (This approach was suggested by Rabbi Sheila Peltz Weinberg). We will explore this together on Shabbat morning, May 27, the 2nd day of Shavuot.

May we each feel our connection to that moment of collective revelation in our mytho-history, and may we each open to and receive new, ongoing insights and revelations to guide us into our collective future.

Why Dairy on Shavuot?

I have been asked this question several times over the past few weeks. As with almost all questions about Jewish tradition, there is more than one answer.
The explanation that I like the best is that Torah is like mother’s milk
A human baby can live and even thrive on formula.
A Jew can thrive on the wisdom of other spiritual and cultural traditions.
And, if we learn to latch on and nurse, I believe we can all receive yummy, healthy nourishment from Torah.
We are blessed to live in a time and place in which we can continue to drink and delight, learn and grow from other sources and in other communities.
And, there’s no place like home, and nothing as wholesome as mother’s milk.

Rabbi Amita
רב אמיתה

PS — When I asked the children in Yalla Chaverim what we do on Shavuot, they remembered with enthusiasm from last year: “Stay up all night and eat ice cream!”

We just passed through Yamim Noraim – Days of Awe
April 27, 2023   

This is one of our names for the period starting on Erev Rosh Hashanah and ending with Ne’ilah on Yom Kippur.  Israelis sometimes refer to the period between Yom HaShoah – Holocaust Remembrance Day (which this year fell on April 17-18) and Israel’s Memorial Day immediately followed by Israeli Independence Day (April 24-26), as the Israeli Days of Awe.

Last Wednesday night I was deeply moved by the hometown (Northampton, MA) premier of an extraordinarily inspiring film: Four Winters: A Story of Jewish Partisan Resistance and Bravery in WWII.  Visit http://www.jewishpartisansfilm.com/ for screenings in New England, NY and elsewhere this spring, summer and fall, and look for it on streaming platforms in the winter.

Last Sunday, 23 of us gathered on Greenleaf for a dinner catered by a Palestinian friend of mine, and an open sharing of our complex feelings about Israel.  Seven of you joined the discussion via Zoom.  It was an amazingly civil sharing, deepening the sense of trust in our community.  

Thank you to Chris Mansfield, Sue Lederer, Kim Effron, Richard Evers and Donna Hadjipopov for their help with dinner set up and/or clean up.  (Please forgive me if I forgot you!) 

Some of you were able to view the 18th annual Joint Israeli-Palestinian Memorial this past Monday, live from Tel Aviv.  Yom HaZikaron, Memorial Day, is the most somber day of the year in Israel, even more than Yom HaShoah, since half of Israel’s Jewish population is Mizrachi – i.e. people born in or descended from those born in North Africa or the Middle East, and do not feel personally related to the Holocaust.  Access a recording of this moving ceremony, where Israelis and Palestinians share their grief, their hope, and their commitment to peace & justice, with English subtitles, at  www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxbkR9_ZTrw

As this is the 75th anniversary of the establishment of the State of Israel, there are many more programs (in person and Zoom) in the coming weeks.  This one caught my attention:

On April 30th The Center for Jewish History presented a symposium: ZIONISM AND AMERICAN JEWS: BRINGING US TOGETHER AND PULLING US APART.

And from the Hartman Institute in Jerusalem (where I have studied — brilliant, creative faculty!): https://www.hartman.org.il/program/israel-at-75/?mc_cid=3ea5f26b88&mc_eid=3bd020458c

The Modern State of Israel Turns 75 on April 23, 2023  
On the eve of this significant anniversary, Israel is going through a painful but apparently necessary process. I pray that the mass protest movement in Israel will bring about a serious change for the better, not just protecting the threatened power of Israel’s Supreme Court and maintaining a democracy for Jews, but reckoning with the corrosive effects of the 54 year Occupation. Tragically, Israel also needs to reckon with the fact that there is an inherent contradiction in the idea of Jewish Democratic state, when even within the green line, 22% of Israel’s citizens are not Jews. I say this as an Israeli citizen, and one who deeply loves Israel.

I deeply resonate with Gershon Baskin, an Israeli Peace activist whom I have known for > 30 years, specifically in his Jerusalem Post column two months ago:     https://www.jpost.com/opinion/article-731720. Gershon writes a weekly column in the jpost.  Here is the link to his April 20th column about the Joint Israeli-Palestinian Memorial ceremony.  https://www.jpost.com/opinion/article-739699

This Sunday evening, April 23, from 6-8:30 pm, we will carefully enter into a sharing of our feelings about Israel today. In that discussion, I will invite you to see yourselves as one or more of the 4 children in the Seder – the “Wise” One, the “Rebellious” One, the “Simple” One, and the “One Who Does Not Know What to Ask.”  All of these children – all of you – deserve a place at the table, and in this community.

This is not an informational session.  It is an opportunity to listen to one another.  After an initial invitation to share in groups of 3, we will form one circle and I will keep time, limiting each speaker to 3 minutes.  No one can speak a 2nd time until everyone who wants to express something has spoken.  

Why Palestinian and not Israeli food?

The simple answer is that Yalla Vermont is closed until May 4.  As it happens, my friend Ismail Assad recently opened a food truck in Greenfield.  I met Ismail at EcoME,https://ecomecenter.org/en/about-us/ an experimental, intercultural community on the road to the Dead Sea that operated for 8 seasons (October-May, as between June-Sept it is intolerably hot there with no AC). EcoMe offered courses in NVC, Yoga, Dance,  Hebrew and Arabic languages, permaculture, and hosted many events. I attended workshops there. Ismail actually lived there with Israelis, other Palestinians, and internationals for 4 seasons.  When I returned to New England to be the BAJC rabbi, a mutual friend informed me that, serendipitously, he was living nearby.  (BTW, he is desperate to obtain permanent US residence status, with an appeal for his immigration case scheduled in Boston on June 6.  Please contact me at ravamita@bajcvermont.org if you know of a good immigration lawyer in MA or are able to help with legal fees).

Unfortunately, Ismail cannot join us for this discussion, as he has to work.  This discussion and dinner has been moved from Friday to Sunday because the month-long fast of Ramadan ends with Eid el Fitr on Friday night, and he will be celebrating through Saturday night.  (He has been cooking and serving food all month while fasting).

I hope to see you and hear your voice at this discussion

Rabbi Amita
רב אמיתה

What is Hidden in Purim? (Not just for kids)
March 2, 2023

Purim is a minor Jewish holiday. Since I was about 12 years old, it has been my least favorite. I have been averse to raucous partying my whole life, challenged by masks and costumes, uncomfortable acting, and I’ve never liked the effects of alcohol. In short, you might say I’m overly serious.

At the other end of the spectrum, Yom Kippur is my favorite holiday.  It is the culmination of a 40 day period of reflection and making amends, a day of prayer, fasting, and awe.  On Yom Kippur, we are reminded that we are tiny specks in the universe, fragile, mortal,  and that ultimately, our fate is in the hands of forces beyond us.

These two holidays are connected in several ways.  In a literal way, they are almost the same word, as another name for Yom Kippur is Yom Hakippurim  יום הכיפורים, which literally means the Day of Atonements, but could also be translated as “the day like Purim.”  An implication of this is that what seem like opposites are often very similar when you delve deeper.  This is suggested in the mitzvah that on Purim we should become so intoxicated that we cannot distinguish between “Blessed is Mordecai” and “Cursed is Haman.”

On a physical level, both fire and ice burn.  Emotionally, deep grief and tremendous joy can feel similar – they meet in Love.  Individuals with intense, polarized opinions are often very similar.  Those who make great efforts not to be like their parents usually end up realizing how fundamentally similar they are.  Take some time to think about how, in your experience, apparent opposites are similar.

Purim is also about the reversal of fortune. Haman, the King’s vizier, plots to kill all the Jews in the Persian empire because Mordecai the Jew won’t bow down to him.  In the end, Haman is hanged and Mordecai becomes the vizier.  This story is recounted in the biblical book of Esther.  While Orthodox Jews believe that the Purim story is historical, there is no evidence that any of it actually took place.  It is both a farce and a revenge fantasy of an oppressed People.

Another important fact about the Book of Esther is that God’s name does not appear in it even once.  Esther, the name that Hadassah (her birth name) is given when she goes to compete in King Ahasverus’ contest for a new queen, is based on the name of the Mesopotamian goddess of love and sexuality, Ishtar.   But also, in Hebrew, Esther אסתר shares the root        ס – ת – ר  of the word for hidden.  This hiddenness has a double meaning in the story.  Esther must hide her Jewish identity from the King, and God is hidden in the frivolity and farce of the Purim story and the entire festival. But hidden does not mean absent.  While it appears that everything in the story happens through either human agency (Esther’s courage) or through chance (Purim literally means “lots,” as in lottery) the miraculous twist of fate can also be seen as divine intervention.

So although I began this piece by saying that Purim is my least favorite holiday, this serious rabbi must admit that there is more to it than meets the eye.  I promise to make an effort to embrace the silliness and fun this year. I may even imbibe half a glass of wine.  I’ll definitely be dancing!

L’Chayim!        לחיים ולשמחה

Rabbi Amita   רב אמיתה

Terumah- Offerings
February 22, 2023

This week’s Torah portion, Exodus 25:1 – 27:19, is Terumah, meaning contribution, donation or offering.
“YHVH  יהוה spoke to Moses, saying: Tell the Israelite people to bring Me gifts; you shall accept gifts for Me from every person whose heart is so moved.”
After specifying the gifts that are needed, YHVH instructs:“V’Asu li mikdash v’shachanti b’tocham.”  
“And let them make Me a sanctuary that I may dwell among them.”

Herein lies one of the most central teachings of Torah: It’s not about the material stuff itself, but the hearts that are moved to contribute.  Many Torah commentators through the centuries have pointed out that God did not / does not dwell in the physical sanctuary, but rather that the collective process of building something together, with generous hearts, is what drew/draws YHVH (God/Holiness Light/Love) to dwell amongst us.  
Note that the word for dwell has the root  ש – כ – ן as in שכינה – Shekhinah, aka the Indwelling Presence, also understood as the feminine aspect of God. 

{Look for an announcement in the March newsletter about a class on the magic of Hebrew words and letters.  No previous knowledge of Hebrew required}.
                                           

It’s not that the specific instructions don’t matter at all. 
If someone asks for tulips and you bring roses, or apples and you bring oranges, or a hug and you give advice, it doesn’t mean you don’t love them or you’re not a good person; but YHVH is most present when requests are fulfilled with a generous heart. 

(If you ask for tulips and I begrudgingly bring them to you, is that better or worse than lovingly giving you something other than what you asked for?)

Terumah contains the root (ר – ו – ם) — “to raise up.”   By both paying attention (which in Hebrew is translated as “putting heart”) to what is being requested, and giving with a generous heart, we are each lifting ourselves up, and also elevating the energy of our community as a whole.

Thank you to all of you who, in the past 3 weeks, have pledged to the human capital campaign for the sake of elevating/growing/injecting life and energy into Shir Heharim-BAJC.   

Thank you to all who contribute gifts of the heart as an annual statement of membership and support. 

Thank you for the enormous amount of time and energy that so many of you invest in BAJC. 

And thank you for whatever time, energy and skills you contribute, even if it’s not an “enormous” amount.

(Specific thank yous will appear in the March monthly newsletter and all monthly newsletters).

And thank you in advance to those who will share a bit about something you are passionate about this Friday evening after Kabbalat Shabbat and dinner.  That too is a gift of the heart. 

Today, Feb 22, 2023, is Rosh Chodesh (new Moon of) Adar. 
The Talmud teaches: “When Adar enters, happiness increases.” (Tractate Ta’anit, 29a). 
Ken Y’hi Ratzon — May it be so!
Chodesh Tov! 

Laws to be Proud of, Perplexed by, and to Ponder
February 16, 2023

This Shabbat we read Mishpatim, Exodus 21:1–24:18, which contains 53 laws, a mixture of ethical and ritual. Some align with our contemporary values and some may seem meshuganeh.  In contrast with every other portion since we began the Torah cycle in late October, there is very little narrative in this one.  But some of these laws contain colorful scenarios to contemplate, be shocked, intrigued and entertained by, and many to be proud of.

Many of the laws in this portion have to do with preventing abuse of the vulnerable: servants, wage laborers, orphans, widows, the poor.  One is the commandment: “You shall not oppress a Ger (stranger), for you know the feeling of the stranger, having yourselves been strangers in the land of Egypt.”  The Talmud points out that the Torah repeats some version of this law 36 times.  Ger is a term which has been interpreted in many ways, some of which exclude Palestinians, as they are seen by some, including the current extremely nationalist Israel government, not as strangers who dwell among us, but as enemies. (You can guess my opinion on this).

When I was at Amherst Regional High School, there was an English elective in Bible.  One assignment was to keep a scrapbook throughout the semester in which we recorded and pasted sightings of Biblical references on the street and in the media. One of the most famous, “An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth…”  is in this Torah portion.

We also find here laws about what to do about a woman who miscarries when pushed while caught between 2 brawling men, manslaughter, a goring ox, a wandering ass, an accidentally spreading fire, a tunneling thief, prohibitions against accepting bribes, against eating treyf (literally flesh torn by wild beasts), and many others.

Whatever our concerns about the legislature and judiciary in the US and in Israel (never mind law enforcement, which is not dealt with in Torah), imagine creating an entire legal system from scratch.  Is a legal system essential?  I believe so.  This is what the Torah begins to do in this portion, coming right after the 10 Dibrot / Commandments / Utterances.  According to the Torah itself, the Israelites wandered for 40 years in the wilderness, but one can see in the civil laws here that they did not arise in a vacuum. There is clear borrowing and editing from other legal codes of the Ancient Near East, e.g. the Code of Hammurabi.

Last year we divided the Hebrew School Chaverim (now Yalla Chaverim) into groups of 2 or 3 and asked them to come up with what they felt were the 3 most important laws.

What 3 or 10 laws would you emphasize in creating a just society?

Join us this Shabbat morning from 10-12 for morning services with plenty of singing as always, and at around 11, a Torah reading with thematic aliyot and discussion of some of these mishpatim (laws).   After the service, we will eat a shtetl menu lunch together, catered by our own Chelsa Roy, funded by the Harold Grinspoon Foundation.   Afterwards, some of us will go together to BUHS for the matinee of Fiddler on the Roof.

Before signing off this week, I would like to add 2 things (note: in Hebrew, “word” and “thing” can both be translated as d’var דבר ):

1) Prayers for the millions of people affected by the earthquakes in Syria and Turkey.  I hope that in addition to other tzedakah commitments, you are able to give something to help people impacted by this immense disaster. Visit https://www.charitynavigator.org/  for recommendations of where to donate.

2) Thank you to all of you who have expressed your love and dedication to the vitality of BAJC with pledges to the Human Capital Campaign.  If you have any questions or concerns that you would like to address to me — in addition to Tom Franks and Chris Mansfield who are ably heading up the campaign — feel free to email me at ravamita@bajcvermont.org.

Rabbi Amita
רב אמיתה

What does Kabbalah mean?
February 9, 2023

This past Tuesday was the 1st meeting of the reignited BAJC Meditation group.  Thank you to Ami Ji Schmid for facilitating so beautifully.  We meet Tuesdays from 6-7 pm with rotating leadership. All are warmly welcome. Anyone can lead, but willingness to lead is not a requirement for participation.  Contact Laura at options@myfairpoint.net for more information. Before our 20 minutes of silence, Ami asked what arises in us when we hear the word Kabbalah.  Each of the 8 of us who were present this Tuesday had a different response. This was mine:

Kabbalah קבלה means receiving.  Since each letter in the Hebrew Alphabet (Aleph-Bet) has spiritual meaning, I sometimes look at the letters for deeper insight into the word.  Kuf ק is the only non-final letter that goes below the line.  To me, the leg of the ק that extends below the line feels grounding.  The next letter, Beit ב means house/home. The lamed ל connects us with the sky/heavens.  As I shared during the High Holidays in the context of the word Melech מלך, (King/Sovereign), the lamed ל is the letter of transmission, learning, teaching. The hey ה at the end is not part of the root of the word. However, it does affect the meaning, as ה , appearing twice in the 4-letter ineffable name YHVH, signifies God.  When attached to קבל, it implies Receptivity to Divine Source.

So the root word קבל (K-B-L) invites me to feel my roots in the earth, notice and feel that I’m at home, wherever I am, and allow myself to receive light, inspiration and Love through my crown.  (Of course we can also receive through our hearts and through our whole embodied selves, from one another and the earth).

This week’s Torah portion is called Yitro (Jethro), named for Moses’ father-in-law, a Midianite priest.  The Revelation at Mt Sinai occurs in this portion.  We as a People receive the 10 “Commandments” (10 dibrot actually means Utterances) and the entire Torah.  This event is called both Matan Torah (the Giving of Torah) and Kabbalat Torah (the Receiving of Torah).  If the Torah were given and not received, then the giving would be fruitless.

I imagine we all know what it feels like to attempt to give to someone(s) who is not willing or able to receive what we are offering. And I imagine we also all know what it feels like to be unable to receive from someone who wants to give to us.  Unsuccessful transmission is painful from both sides.

May we continue to grow in our ability to both give and receive, with a balance of Hesed (generosity, loving kindness), and Gevurah (clarity, discernment, healthy boundaries).

Rabbi Amita   רב אמיתה

Growing Jewish Community: Vision, Momentum, Enthusiasm, Commitment
February 3, 2023

Energy, excitement and engagement are growing at Shir Heharim-BAJC.

Since September, beginning with the the Yamma Ensemble dinner (attended by 60) and concert (attended by 150), then the first joyful meeting of this year’s Yalla Chaverim family education program at Green Mountain Orchards, the High Holidays, Sukkot, and every single meeting of Yalla Chaverim, I have been seeing the fruits of my labor, and of our shared labor.

In only a year, we have been able to:

• Engage veteran members who had drifted away and attract new members

• Engage non-members with BAJC

• Do outreach via the high school

• Secure a $8500 grant to create a vibrant Family Education program and start a monthly Tot Shabbat for 1-6 year olds and their parents.

• Secure a $7000 grant for teen programming. Teens are a challenge to engage. We are hopeful that a group will come together to build an outdoor oven on our property this spring.

• Secure a $1000 grant for Sukkot programming attended by 45 adults.

• Offer other meaningful opportunities for engaging in Jewish life and building community, among them:

  • Humans of Israel Photo Exhibition with two programs in which members shared personal, moving Israel Stories.

  • Weekly Spiritual Texts group via Zoom for 4 months last year

  • Bring new participants to the Bimah and the piano during the High Holidays

These initiatives have awakened a positive Jewish identity in some. Outreach in the high school is also countering the spread of anti-Semitism through an accessible, non-judgmental presentation of Judaism and Jewishness. Our Yalla Chaverim program is cultivating an energetic community of engaged children and parents.

Coming this month!

• Shabbat lunch with a shtetl menu, before the Feb 18 matinee of Fiddler on the Roof!

• The first in a series of TED talks after Shabbat dinner, where members and friends of BAJC will share your passions with others in the community.  The TED talks series idea came to me because each person I’ve spoken with here for more than 10 minutes has impressed me with your passions, life stories, wisdom, and depth of presence. I am excited to continue to get to know you, and for you to get to know, enjoy and be inspired by one another.

I am passionate about connecting Jewish people with Jewish traditions, Jewish community, and the Jewish parts of ourselves.

I believe that we Jews have all been handed a gift, and many people never open the package.

We each have the potential to heal and integrate the traumas of our personal pasts in this lifetime.

We each also have the potential to heal our ancestral and collective trauma.

We may grow new branches and be deeply nourished by other communities and through other traditions, but I believe that we cannot be fully integrated, healthy people if we cut ourselves off from our roots.

Is YHVH Everywhere?
January 26, 2023

In Parashat Bo, the 3rd portion in the book of Exodus, Moshe and Aharon continue to plead with Pharoah to let the Israelites go.  In this portion, the Egyptians are smitten with the last 3 plagues: locusts, darkness and the killing of the first born.

One of the most “drashed”  (interpreted) verses in this portion is the first one: Exodus 10:1: “Then יהוה said to Moses, Come to Pharaoh. For I have hardened his heart and the hearts of his courtiers, in order that I may display these My signs among them…”

While most translations change בא Bo to “Go”, the literal translation is “Come.” In the craft of interpretation, every word receives attention. If the author of the Torah (be that author human or Divine) had meant to say “Go”, they would have said written it that way.  There are plenty of other places  in Torah where the word “Go”  (Lech לך) is used, such as in the 3rd portion of Genesis, when YHVH tells Avram (not yet Avraham) “Lech Lecha” – Go forth, another highly drashed phrase, oft interpreted as “Go to Yourself.”

Menachem Mendel of Kotzk (better known as the Kotzker Rebbe, 1787-1859) taught that Bo implies that YHVH is reminding Moshe that YHVH is everywhere, and God will be with him when he approaches Pharaoh, as in “Come with Me.”

Another way to look at this, very popular in the Jewish circles I travel and Zoom in, is that God was/is/will be actually IN Pharaoh.  This is a very difficult concept to swallow.  Easy to say, hard to really believe and live by.  What does that mean?  What can we learn from such a perspective?

Some believe that God is only Good, or IN the Good.  Others believe that God is Everything, or IN everything.  I relate to YHVH in all of those ways, depending on the moment, and don’t demand of myself to choose.  It can be entertaining and engaging to discuss theology, but what matters is how we live with ourselves and others.

With International Holocaust Remembrance Day upon us (Jan 27), acknowledging that God was in Pharaoh is the near equivalent of saying God was in Hitler.  (For me, Hitler is a much tougher character to find God in than Pharaoh. I have empathy for the Egyptian ruler, whose heart was hardened by YHVH).  Nevertheless, it’s a thought to sit with, breathe into and notice our reactions.

It is incumbent upon us all to look at the ways we harden our hearts toward others, and first and foremost towards ourselves. I strongly believe (I even daresay I know, from my own inner explorations) that heart-hardening starts within, towards ourselves.

May we all be aware of the ways we harden our hearts, and grow in compassion for ourselves and others.

Rabbi Amita 
רב אמיתה

Coming out of the Narrow Place Singing
January 20, 2023

As is always the case, we begin reading the book of Exodus (Shemot ) sometime between late December and mid-January, 13 weeks after Simchat Torah, and several months before Pesach.  We retell the story of our slavery and liberation in detail at the Passover seder(s) every year, reflecting on the ways we are enslaved and the ways we are free.

The Torah portions in the beginning of the book of Exodus, which we began to read on January 14 this year, are packed with essential moments. Moses is born, is rescued by the love and ingenuity of women, grows up in Pharaoh’s palace, awakens to the oppression of his kinsfolk, slays a taskmaster, travels to Midian, marries the daughter of a Midianite Priest, becomes a shepherd, and experiences Revelation.  God appears to him in a Burning Bush as Ehiyeh Asher Ehiyeh – “I Will Be What I Will Be.”  (We could easily discuss that scene alone for several hours.) Ehiyeh tells Moses to return to Egypt to liberate the Israelites.  Moses resists the call, but God doesn’t let him off the hook. God tells him to team up with his brother Aaron, an eloquent speaker.  After their first confrontation with Pharaoh, Pharaoh reacts by making the slaves work even harder. 

In addition to reading the story of Yetziat Mitzrayim (Exodus) on Passover and during the annual Torah reading cycle in early winter, we are reminded twice each day of our collective Coming out of the Narrow Place, when we chant Mi Kamocha.  Torah tells us that this was sung by the Children of Israel after crossing the Sea.  We will chant from that portion on Feb 4, on the day referred to as Shabbat Shira, the Shabbat of Singing, in our communal home on Greenleaf Street with a chanting circle led by Itai Gal.

When I was a rabbi in midcoast Maine from 2004-2009, there was a tradition initiated by a family an hour north of the shul, to go cross-country skiing and snowshoeing through the woods and across a frozen lake, simulating the biblical crossing of the Sea.  We stopped every 10 minutes along our snowy trek to chant a part of the service, and after “crossing the sea”, we chanted the Song at the Sea (Shirat HaYam) from photocopies of that section of the Torah portion.  

I had hoped to do this with Shir HeHarim-BAJC this year, but there is no guarantee of snow on the ground or even a pond that is frozen enough to promise safe crossing.  So we will enjoy a chanting service facilitated by Itai, and then those who feel able and inspired will walk down to the stream on our property, and return to our sanctuary to hear the chanting of Shirat HaYam from the Torah scroll. 

After the service we will enjoy a Tu B’Shvat Seder based on the mystical seder created by Isaac Luria (aka the Ari) and his disciples in 16th century Tsfat. The Tu B’Shvat Seder is an ever-evolving celebration, combining Kabbalah and contemporary environmental values.  

Shabbat Shalom v’Chodesh Tov       
Rabbi Amita     רב אמיתה
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A Shabbat to Remember
January 12, 2023

Last Friday 40 people shared a wonderful evening at the shul.  It had snowed all day, but the roads were clear and the planned event with the cast of Fiddler on the Roof took place with excellent attendance. 17 Brattleboro Union High School students and 23 adults came to 151 Greenleaf.  6 more people joined in via Zoom.  At least 9 of us (9 that I am aware of) were Jews who had not participated in any activities with Shir Heharim-BAJC in the past, or if so, it had been decades ago.

The students were all attentive, curious, and respectful.  Collectively we entered into the sacred time/space of Shabbat when the candles were lit and we all brought in the light 7 times (for the 7 days of the week), from our crowns to the soles of our feet.

Rick Bayer spoke of the transition from experiencing ourselves as “human doings” to human beings.  He and I both shared the feeling of Shabbat “coming in” in Jerusalem or Tzfat (Safed)… all the hussle and bustle of preparing for the Holy Day followed by a hush that descends over the city.
The students asked thoughtful questions such as, in a place and time like Anatevka, with no cars or screens (TV, computer, phone), what made Shabbat different from other days?  They asked what the ark was, and I explained the symbols on it – including the Tree of Life.  The Torah is called a Tree of Life, and the Tree of Life also refers to the 10 Sephirot – emanations of divine energy, which are one schema for the composition of the world, and which are also mapped onto the human body like the chakras.  I also explained that the Hebrew letters are understood mystically to be the building blocks of creation, and each letter has its own energy.  Stephan brought our attention to the Ner Tamid, which represents the golden Menorah that burned constantly in our wilderness Mishkan (sanctuary/tabernacle).

We sang Lecha Dodi (Come My Beloved to Greet the Bride) – the bride being Shabbat herself, and, as was the custom of the Kabbalists in Tzfat who developed the entire ritual of Kabbalat Shabbat, we all went outside to greet her for the last verse.  (They would sing and pray all of Kabbalat Shabbat in the fields.  We only sang the last verse out in the cold!)

Before eating, we all did the ritual of Netilat Yadayim.  I explained that the Shabbat table represents the altar in the Mishkan. We wash and lift up our hands as the Cohanim cleansed themselves before performing the sacrifices.  It’s customary not to speak from the time we do the ritual hand washing until we say HaMotzi, but often people hum niggunim (wordless melodies) during that interval.  Being 40 people, it took a good 20 minutes for everyone to do the handwashing.  Each student took this so seriously, embracing the opportunity to immerse themselves in the Shabbat experience as they prepare to be the Jews of Anatevka.  We hummed melodies from Fiddler on the Roof as well as traditional Shabbat melodies.

There was no talking or eating until everyone had their cup of grape juice and piece of challah.  The students agreed that the first bite of bread tastes all the more delicious when you wait so long in silence and bless it together before eating.

At the meal each person introduced themselves and shared who they are in the musical.  I had promised that after dinner, I would show them the Torah.  A few had to leave after the meal, but most stayed, and were very excited to see the scroll up close.  I explained what it is made of, and that it takes about a year to write it, with a special quill and special ink. I know several Sofer Stams (Torah scribes).  The one I know best lives in Jerusalem, and goes to the mikveh every morning before he begins to work.

I let them hold the Torah, but when the first young woman felt how heavy it is, she was afraid to try to hold it herself, especially since I told them that if it falls, the congregation has to fast for 40 days (1 person per day).   [Later, I read that this is not true. One who drops a Torah is supposed to fast for 1-3 days.  The whole congregation does not have to participate in a rotating 40-day fast, although I do know of communities who have chosen to do this]. 

I love experiencing the Torah and Judaism through the eyes of people who know little or nothing about it, and who are comfortable with their Beginners’ Minds.  It’s human nature to enjoy sharing what we love with interested people who have not been exposed to that ‘something’ before, whether it’s a particular trail in the woods, a favorite dish we like to cook, a work of art, a book, or a good friend. 

I am extremely grateful to Rebekah Kersten, the theater teacher/director at BUHS, for organizing this with me.  I am grateful to all the students, teachers and parents who came last Friday, and to every member of BAJC who was here to welcome them.  Thanks to Judith Reichsmann, Teresa Savel, her friend David, Sue Lederer, Kim Effron and Marsha Stern for all their help with set up and clean up, and to Lizi Rosenberg for baking challah. (My sincere apologies if I am forgetting someone who helped a lot!)  Everyone brought plenty of yummy food. 

On Saturday morning, the fun and learning continued in joyful community with another Yalla Chaverim family service, during which we completed the book of Genesis.  After the service, we all ate Chelsa’s delicious challah and amazing rugelach baked by Anna May Seaver. The children learned Hebrew and acted out selections from the Joseph story while the parents had a meaningful discussion about challenging sibling relationships and other sensitive subjects.

I’m always a bit sad when we leave the intimate book of Genesis, with its complex family dynamics, and move on to our collective national story in Exodus.  God willing, we’ll all be alive to dive into Genesis again next year.

Chazak Chazak v’Nitchazek  –  חזק חזק ונתחזק  – Be Strong, Be Strong, and May We Be Strengthened (and May We Strengthen One Another).

Shabbat Shalom 

Rabbi Amita     רב אמיתה

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Rabbi’s Column
January 2, 2023

We Jews live in two civilizations, so although Christmas and the secular New Year are not Jewish holidays, they affect us, and many of us celebrate these days along with our Christian friends, and in many cases family members.

I have never been big on celebrating the secular New Year. I’m grateful for Rosh Hashanah, which holds and offers meaning that the turning of the Gregorian year does not.  We can of course choose to insert meaning into the Gregorian new year, e.g. some people make New Year’s resolutions, and some spend the moments just before and after midnight on Dec 31 in meditation.

One question that arises in me as we approach 2023:  What is time?   How do I experience time?  When does time seem to speed up and when does it slow down?  How is it possible for the moments to drag and the years to fly by?  I remember watching a film about time in a high school physics class that totally blew my mind.  It demonstrated that time can actually move backward.  (Don’t ask me to explain.  Physics is the only class I ever dropped out of).

In Hebrew, the word for time is z’man זמן, which is the root of the word הזמנה ––  invitation.  
What is this moment, this hour, this day, week, month, year, inviting you to do / feel / express?

Secular time feels linear to me.  Jewish time is cyclical.  I am especially grateful for Shabbat, which AJ Heschel called a “Palace in Time.” [See elsewhere in this newsletter three Wednesday evening webinars organized by the Shalom Center in honor of Heschel’s 50th Yahrzeit this month].

Even though I do not currently observe Shabbat halachically, I always light Shabbat candles, with the kavanah (intention) to bring light and blessing into each day of the coming week. I don’t shop, I make an effort not to think about finances; I am aware of it being Shabbat from sundown on Friday ‘til the first stars appear in the night sky on Saturday.  It’s much easier to feel Shabbat in Israel, especially in Jerusalem or Tzfat (Safed), where every one slows down and a peaceful atmosphere reigns for 25 hours.  It takes more intention to create that atmospheric shift in Vermont (especially since it’s generally more peaceful in Vermont to begin with!), but it’s not impossible.

It was a joy being together with many of you for the eight nights of Chanukah this year, some in person, some via Zoom. I always feel sad when the last dancing flame in the Chanukah menorah dies out.  And I simultaneously feel tremendous gratitude for Shabbat, with the peace, warmth and light of the Shabbat candles every week.

I hope to see you on Friday evening, Jan 6, to welcome Shabbat and to welcome members of the cast of BUHS’s Fiddler on the Roof, which will be performed Feb 16-18. Please bring vegetarian food to share.

L’Shalom,
Rabbi Amita Jarmon   רב אמיתה

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Joseph, Forgiveness, Light
December 23, 2022

On December 17th, we began the Joseph Novella, which unfolds over the course of four Torah portions, Genesis chapters 37 through 56.  The characters have greater psychological depth than those in any of the other Torah stories, and the plot is ingenious. Many of us first learned the Joseph story not through the Torah, but from Tim Rice and Andrew Lloyd Weber’s telling of it in the musical “Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.”  

I recently listened to Stephen Mitchell’s brilliant, poetic Zen Midrash: Joseph and the Way of Forgiveness: A Story About Letting Go, published in 2019. Mitchell points out the this is the only book in the entire Bible the teaches us how to forgive. Jesus, through the Gospels, speaks repeatedly about the importance of forgiveness, but does not actually teach us how to do it.  Joseph’s life is an inspiring example of how to cultivate forgiveness.  I highly recommend reading this, or listening to the author’s soothing voice on the audiobook.   

In Parasha VaYeishev, Joseph’s innocent self-centeredness, fed by his father’s loving and favoring him over all his other 11 brothers, naturally arouses his brothers’ jealousy.  When he, with clueless excitement, shares his dreams, their jealousy turns to rage and they toss him in a pit (in Hebrew, בור).  In the mystical understanding of Hebrew letters, aleph א represents God.  When an א replaces the letter vav, the בור becomes a באר, a wellspring for Joseph’s insight and transformation.  

God does not “appear” in the Joseph story.  God doesn’t speak to Joseph as he spoke with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. But Joseph realizes while in the pit/well that his predicament is part of the Divine plan / the Great Way.  In Mitchell’s retelling, Joseph moves from shock and confusion, to being able to see himself through his brothers’ eyes.  He realizes how and why his words and actions affected them, even though there was no ill intent on his part. At first he feels terribly guilty and heartsick, deeply ashamed.  Then he is graced with the insight that it’s all part of the Divine Plan/Great Way. With this realization he is able to forgive himself and is infused with Peace.

The reading of the Joseph story always coincides with Chanukah.  In both our Torah text and our Solstice season holiday, there is a movement from darkness to light.  For Joseph, there is a back and forth from darkness to light.  It’s not a straight line. But because of Joseph’s high level of consciousness, even when his situation appears dark, he is able to zoom out and see the bigger picture and the greater Light. 

May we all feel and see the Light in ourselves and others during Chanukah.
May we remind others of their light and reflect it back to them when they have lost sight of it.
May we all develop Joseph’s ability to see the big picture and trust in the Great Way.

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“Thanksgiving, Rosh Chodesh Kislev, Celebrating Cultures”

November 24, 2022

On Thanksgiving most residents of the US gather together with family and/or friends for a festive meal regardless of country of origin and regardless of religious tradition. Whether one is religious or an atheist, today is a day to pause and give thanks for whatever is good in our lives.  In recent years, dozens of books have been published about the benefits of gratitude and how to practice gratitude. 

Jewish tradition instructs us to give thanks each morning immediately upon waking.  The first thing we say is, “Modeh (masc) / Modah (fem) / Modet (non-gendered) Ani…”  “I give thanks before You… for compassionately returning my soul to me … how great is Your faith in me.”  I say this each morning in the same way I do it when leading services – bowing to the left giving thanks for the past, bowing to the right giving thanks for the future, and bowing to the center giving thanks for this moment.

Three times each day in the Amidah (standing prayer), the penultimate blessing begins: “Modim Anachnu Lach…”    “We give thanks before You…”  and ends with “…l’cha na’eh l’hodot,”  “It is good/pleasing to give thanks to You.”  This particular blessing has us give thanks for the miracles that we experience each evening, morning and afternoon.   

It is good to give thanks.  By saying these words, we are reminded of what we are grateful for, no matter how challenging our day has been, no matter what is not going well in our lives or in the world, even when we are ill or bereaved. 

This year, Thanksgiving coincides with Rosh Chodesh Kislev – the new moon of Kislev.  

As Mordecai Kaplan said, we Jews live in two civilizations.  This is true today, and it has always been true.  We live in Jewish civilization, and we also live in the “host” civilization.  In our case, that host is North America, which in itself is a mix of many cultures. In recent years, there is a growing awareness of our responsibility toward the descendants of the First Nations.  It is incumbent upon us to learn about the Abenaki, whose bodies and culture were almost completely wiped out by the Europeans who colonized Vermont in the early 18th century.  We might individually consider contributing to an organization that supports Abenkai or other Indigenous peoples.

Celebrating Thanksgiving, which may include acknowledging the complexities of this day, is a practice of the host civilization we live in.  Looking up and noticing that we cannot see the moon on a clear night when we do see stars, is a practice of Jewish civilization, as is singing a partial Hallel (selections from Psalms 113-118) the next morning. 

Last night, I joined a group of eight women rabbis in Israel via Zoom (for them it was already this morning), singing Hallel to celebrate Rosh Chodesh.  While I believe it is important for us to support the preservation of Indigenous cultures, I obviously also believe it’s important to preserve our own culture, which includes paying attention to the cycles of the moon.

Each month has its own energy.  My friend Mindy Ribner, a student of both Reb Zalman and Reb Shlomo, wrote Kabbalah Month by Month, 2002.  She has a great deal to say about each month.  Here is some of what she says about Kislev: 

“Kislev is about transcending what is logical, actualizing dreams and visions and going forward. Kislev is known as the month of miracles. During the month of Kislev, we become more aware of Divine synchronicity.

Kislev is a time of deepening faith and trust. Living with faith enables us to not be bound by the reasoning powers and limits of the mind. It is faith, not the mind, that opens us to new possibilities and new dimensions. It is faith that enables us to go forward in ways we could not do previously.

The month of Kislev is about learning to more fully trust in the Source of All Life. Kislev is about reclaiming the dreams of the inner child. Kislev is about taking risks to move forward to live more authentically and embody more of our soul potential. In Kislev, we are better able to access the guidance of our very own soul and live with greater confidence.”

Blessings for a day of Gratitude and Joy, Chodesh Tov, and Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Amita  רב אמיתה      

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